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User7777 Wed 23-Mar-22 10:12:08

Hi, need advice. Manfriend of 3 months although I knew him in my 20s.
Forgot my birthday, talks endlessly about old girlfriends, cuts our calls if someone else rings on his other line. Always morose, about everything, always reason he cant do something. Such as chores . Calls too much. Any thoughts... not in relationship yet. He's pushing for relationship to happen.

Luckygirl3 Wed 23-Mar-22 10:13:31

Send him over the horizon .......

Witzend Wed 23-Mar-22 10:15:11

Sounds like one to avoid! If you don’t want to dump him straight off, maybe a gradual cooling?

MawtheMerrier Wed 23-Mar-22 10:17:53

Tell him to push off?

grannyrebel7 Wed 23-Mar-22 10:18:16

Run for the hills!

henetha Wed 23-Mar-22 10:28:20

Do you really want the endless agro of someone like that in your life?

GagaJo Wed 23-Mar-22 10:30:41

It sounds to me as if he turns to you when nothing better is on.

By 'pushing for relationship' do you mean he wants to make it physical?

I'd make sure he actually enjoyed my company before taking that step, at this older stage of life.

Witzend Wed 23-Mar-22 10:31:14

When you say ‘pushing for a relationship’ is that code for ‘he’s hoping to get his end away’?

Witzend Wed 23-Mar-22 10:31:34

Cross post!!

Chewbacca Wed 23-Mar-22 10:33:06

3 questions:
Is he kind and respectful to you?
Does he make you feel good about yourself?
Do you love him and feel loved in return?

If the answer to any of those questions is no; kick him to the kerb and move on.

Baggs Wed 23-Mar-22 10:34:23

Kick him to touch (so to speak).

Baggs Wed 23-Mar-22 10:35:16

Chewbacca

3 questions:
Is he kind and respectful to you?
Does he make you feel good about yourself?
Do you love him and feel loved in return?

If the answer to any of those questions is no; kick him to the kerb and move on.

talks endlessly about old girlfriends is not respectful or kind.

Ladyleftfieldlover Wed 23-Mar-22 10:36:29

Why are you even asking? Get rid of him soon or he’ll simply inveigle his way into your life. He sounds a nightmare.

nanaK54 Wed 23-Mar-22 11:10:09

He really doesn't sound like a 'keeper' to me

DiscoDancer1975 Wed 23-Mar-22 11:12:51

You really need advice on this!!!

Grandmabatty Wed 23-Mar-22 11:47:04

Get rid of him. Pronto.

FannyCornforth Wed 23-Mar-22 12:25:07

Nooo! 😵

Redhead56 Wed 23-Mar-22 12:50:21

Why have you put up with him just get rid. He sounds a pain in the rear it's better to be on your own surely.

M0nica Wed 23-Mar-22 12:52:09

Just stop answering the phone when he rings.

Oopsadaisy1 Wed 23-Mar-22 12:54:49

Women want a relationship which makes them happy.

Most men want to have sex, if that’s ok then they want to move in and have someone to wait on them.

Ditch him.

crazyH Wed 23-Mar-22 12:58:28

Nooooooooo

Jane43 Wed 23-Mar-22 13:03:55

Too many red flags, one would be enough for me.

Kalu Wed 23-Mar-22 14:28:14

He will never change his ways from those which benefit him. Listen to what he is telling you and this is before a relationship is established!

Surely you deserve better than such a self centred man to share your life with. 🚩 🚩🚩

MerylStreep Wed 23-Mar-22 14:32:15

What could possibly go wrong 🤔 mmm, let me think.

Hithere Wed 23-Mar-22 14:52:33

Lose his number today.

If this is his best behaviour as he wants a relationship with you, what can be his worst?

May I ask why you are consulting with us?Don't you feel you are worth more than this?