Finding a decent man on Online dating over 50

A very old friend of mine was widowed in 2015. She remarried in 2019 to someone who had also been widowed. They are both lovely.

I found a great match and to be honest, apart from the Church of Scotland minister the few people I met were delightfully normal.

My widowed aunty met a lovely man who she now shares her life with on there

I'm intrigued by the C of S minister Esspee can you elaborate?

I know a woman who met a man online during lockdown. They chatted a lot & eventually (when circumstances permitted) they met. Now they see each other regularly. They're exactly the same age (70+) and both "single". A really nice guy (I've met him a few times). So, (as far as I can see), it can work out!

Sassanach512

I'm intrigued by the C of S minister Esspee can you elaborate?

Me too!

I'm pleased that some people have met nice men through it - because I find the ones on the adverts somewhat creepy!

You may meet a lot of frogs before you meet Prince Charming, check them out thoroughly, make sure their story adds up, so don’t commit until you are sure, good luck!.

My experience of it is that the men want younger women. So if a bloke is 60, he wants a 45/50 year old. I'm not interested in men 15 years older than me, so it'd be a hard no from me these days.

When I did use OLD, I was 40 and the men I dated were approx. 10 years older than me. Quite a few nice guys. None were the right one.

I tried one of the sites some years ago before I met my OH. One particular guy was so full of himself, talked garbage, bragged about his house (not particularly impressive from what I recall) flashed the cash (I wasn't impressed) had dreadful taste in clothes and was a complete twerp!
It put me off dating sites for good.

Sassanach512

I'm intrigued by the C of S minister Esspee can you elaborate?

He was a CoS minister, married to a CoS minister but he couldn’t end the marriage as they had a Down’s Syndrome daughter. Instead he went onto OLD hoping to find a discreet partner.
I made a point of spending quite a long time corresponding with matches before meeting them so that I could weed out the unsuitable. In his case he told me he was a CoS minister and his situation was complex but he would tell me all when we met. I agreed to meet for a coffee at a local museum, probably because he was a minister, and when he revealed his situation I gave him such a dressing down he was speechless at first. I hope he did what I told him to do and remove himself from the site.
He was the only person I met who was objectionable. Everyone else I met was normal.

Good for you!

I did meet a millionaire. He didn’t ever say or try to give the impression he was wealthy but my son’s girlfriend who was concerned about my safety had a friend who knew his family.
Apparently I should have guessed as his car cost a lot over 100K but I know nothing about cars.
We went out about five times, he showed consideration and geared the outings to my interests taking me places I found fascinating but there was no spark. I didn’t long to see him again. He asked if I would be prepared to live in Italy as he was intending to move there. He was good looking charming and generous but really not my type.
Looking back there were red flags. He never tried to kiss me or hold me and it all made sense when I was told after I had stopped seeing him that he was thought to be gay.

I have found that the physically attractive, successful in the workplace and solvent men are generally after women much younger. The men who claim that they are not materialistic and look like they've just got out of bed, can’t be bothered to wash let alone shave, and for some reason don’t seem to realise how awful it looks when their profile picture shows urinals behind them, I generally find, have no job, no pulse, no house and can’t drive. I’ve managed to buy my own house, have a car, a good job and have no intention of ‘keeping’ a man, I’ve given birth to one and spent practically my whole life picking up after two men aka my son and husband and I’ve no intention of doing it again.
I can’t blame anyone but myself tho, as I had several opportunities years ago but chose to bring my son and daughter up and give my time to them. Sadly they have now flown the nest and I’m alone ☹️
I’d love to find a nice man but those that are nice and my age don’t even get to the dating sites, there are to many women queuing up for them ☹️ It’s definitely a mans world.

That should have read....my ‘ex’husband. ?

I’d been considering dipping a toe into online dating. However I’ve now started watching For Love Or Money on BBC iPlayer and it’s put me off.

That's a shame that there are no nice men!
I am not looking for one myself but I have heard that some of the more specialist sites work well.
Farmers looking for someone who would enjoy the rural life, for example. Apparently there are lots of lonely farmers.
countrypartners.co.uk/

Meetup interest groups sound like a better bet so that's my tuppence-worth. Good luck and don't give up but don't appear too keen either.

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I met my second husband via an ad in a local paper. We have been married happily now for 18 years.

Most of the posts here are over a year old, but reading some of the earlier ones gave me a good laugh! My ex husband, who has recently divorced - his third time! - is now back on at least one dating site, I hear. Personally, I’m thankful for the freedom I’ve had since I divorced him 6 years ago. I have no intention of looking for another man to share my life with.

I agree with GagaJo and Stacey most men appear to be looking for much younger women.

Many years ago after my ex walked out I dipped my toe in the market but those I saw were really interested in my house and savings. I decided to stay on my own.

Startingover61

Most of the posts here are over a year old, but reading some of the earlier ones gave me a good laugh! My ex husband, who has recently divorced - his third time! - is now back on at least one dating site, I hear. Personally, I’m thankful for the freedom I’ve had since I divorced him 6 years ago. I have no intention of looking for another man to share my life with.

I was chatted up by a man old enough to be my grandfather last year in the local shops. His opening line was 'I'm looking for a dollybird.'

He was looking for a nurse, housekeeper and cook more like. No thanks.

My answer was, 'My name's not dolly.'

What do these men think is in it for us?

If you walk around your local shopping centre you’ll see all sorts of men, most of whom you probably wouldn’t want to get to know. A dating site is similar. Lots of men who, for all sorts of reasons, wouldn’t be suitable for you. There are some genuine men around but it takes time and effort to find one.