Is it normal behaviour?

The thread title asks "is it normal behaviour". If it's normal for him and always has been then yes it is normal.

I don't think you need to worry unless his behaviour towards you changes. If that's the same as it has always been and the way he behaves towards other women is the way it has always been, what's the problem?

What has made you want to talk about it on here now?

I do think it's an older man thing. And also an 'oblivious' thing too. Sad and a little bit pathetic.

We married at forty and forty five if my husband flirted in front of me I would have snapped at him. It’s not something I would put up with ever again.
Done it been there worn the tee shirt there’s being polite and there’s flirting it’s not acceptable. I sound like a snap dragon I’m not I had a bad first marriage but was too naive to see it coming.

I think some people are more flirtatious than others. I doesn't mean your husband is being disrespectful to you or the women he's engaging with.

As this is troubling you, you need to talk to him about it. It doesn't have or need to be confrontational which making demands would be.

This isn't something you need to deal with in (your) own head, it's something for you to discuss as a couple. You say he is and has always been very loving toward you, so maybe he simply doesn't know how this makes you feel, and he wont unless you talk to him.

I hope you can get this sorted .

So your husband is a flirt, at the very least

No, not acceptable.

You are not getting the respect you deserve as a his wife so you need to demand it

I know how you feel itstormy. My husband is similar. he is 62.

I wouldn't say he chats other women up but he is very friendly towards them and is a touchy feely kind of person, but hopefully not in a creepy way. For example, He will put his hand on their shoulder or arm when they are speaking to him - mainly because he is a bit deaf I think. He doesn't flirt but he is very attentive.

He will offer to help anyone and I sometimes worry that this may be misconstrued by the women (widows) who he is offering to put shelves up for etc.

He seems oblivious to the fact that some of the ladies might be getting the wrong idea. This makes me feel like I am highlighting something that isn't there.

I don't think he is even thinking about an affair but I am well aware that there are a lot of predatory women out there.

Could you make light of it as his friends seem to do? Do you think he is aware of his behaviour? Would he be shocked if you brought it up?