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Edge26 Sun 19-Jun-22 10:10:22

Yesterday I made a very hard decision to report my son to the Police as I can no longer put up with his abusive behaviour towards me. I have tried very hard to to make him see that was he was/ is doing is dreadfully wrong. I have posted on GN before and had lots of advice which I have acted on. Something happened in the last few days that helped me come to this decision, so today my Son will be getting a phone call telling him that I don't want any contact with him and I don't want him coming to my house. What I would like to ask other Gran's is whether any of you have been in the same position and how you handled it. I feel dreadful as I didn't want this to happen but I had no alternative. Thank you.

Candelle Sun 19-Jun-22 23:12:30

I would just like to say that you are not alone - Gransnetters will always be here for you to offload - it may help a little.

You are very brave to take such a stance, something I am sure you wouldn't do unless it was really necessary.

Wishing you strength.

SunshineSally Sun 19-Jun-22 23:14:15

Hi Edge26
Just wanted to send you a big hug and to say you’ve done the right thing. It takes courage and you need to put your needs first. I hope your son is able to sort himself out. As a parent there is only so much you can do and he needs to take responsibility for his actions past and present.
I’m glad you have supportive siblings x

Beautful Sun 19-Jun-22 23:37:45

I have not been in your situation, but I have read through the replies, and yes good advice on here. I admire you for your strength , which must have been a very hard decision, may I add the right decision aswell ... no one deserves to have abuse thrown at them , whether physical, mental or spiritually ... I pray things will sort out for you ... a problem shared is a problem halved as they say ... God bless

Shelflife Mon 20-Jun-22 00:04:28

Edge26, you have been very very courageous. It must have been a very difficult thing to do but your son has not given you any option. Calling the police was the correct course of action. The next priority is to safeguard yourself in any way you can . Good to know you have siblings to support you. This is a shocking situation to be in and I can only imagine the distress this has caused you. Good luck , stay strong and many GN s are supporting you.

Hithere Mon 20-Jun-22 02:40:18

Edge

I read the background and this was a long time coming

Why even let your son know you do not want anything to do with him anymore?
Calling the police is enough of an action to send that message

A note, call, etc, will add drama to this situation.

luluaugust Mon 20-Jun-22 09:24:16

I am glad you have support, maybe this action will be the start of something better flowers