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Am I antisocial or just weird?

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karmalady Mon 20-Jun-22 10:25:32

Then I come homw and it is a lovely feeling when I come in and close the front door, back in my own world.

Shinamae Mon 20-Jun-22 10:25:25

I have been visiting with my daughter for four days and I’m going home today and I’m really looking forward to my own bed. On July 6 I am going on a coach trip to Anglesey and puffin Island…

karmalady Mon 20-Jun-22 10:22:35

I love my own space, my home is my nest and my haven. I never, my whole life, lived alone until 2015, when my husband died. It took a while but it was sink or swim and I have now made my house my home. I have always had a busy life and now, of my own choosing, I like to be busy but the tail does not wag the dog. I am busy with fulfilling hobbies

I can meet people anytime and can join courses but where I live, I can walk into the small market town and guarantee a dozen `good mornings` and it is so easy to stop and chat.

henetha Mon 20-Jun-22 10:12:44

Yes, I've done coach holidays alone and love them. But strangely, I've made friends on the coach each time!

Luckygirl3 Mon 20-Jun-22 10:11:18

I hate living alone. I am a sociable being and my life feels barren on my own.

I have masses of interests and roles within the various communities around me, I sing and run choirs and arts festivals; but in the end I am on my own and it is not for me.

There is nothing I can do about except it suck it up, as they say. I have been gifted a life I did not want when my OH died. I find it very tough.

Elizabeth27 Mon 20-Jun-22 10:10:19

Same here, I have also realised that when I go away it's the pleasure of coming home that I like the most.

I really dislike staying at other people's houses too.

MadeInYorkshire Mon 20-Jun-22 10:10:06

For various reasons after I sold my house where I had lived for 10 years alone, but mainly for health reasons needed to be closer to my daughter, when I got to my new house, they all moved in! Then I had to have my eldest back from uni as due to her illness she had to give it up. So there's now 6 of us here, and it's chaos!!

Going to release equity in order to make it right for all concerned so fingers crossed I can get enough to do it all!

aggie Mon 20-Jun-22 10:05:49

I have been on a few Coach tours and enjoyed them but glad to pay the extra to have my own room , no matter how friendly my fellow travellers are ! But I would never go unless with a group I know , or at least one friend

TillyTrotter Mon 20-Jun-22 10:04:24

It would be weird if we were all the same.
I like a day at home without visitors following a day of being sociable and out with friends.
If you like being alone and are not lonely I think it is just fine.

aggie Mon 20-Jun-22 10:03:04

I grit my teeth and go to our local midweek club , local history talks etc , but I am first to leave ! Always glad to get home
I don’t want to become a recluse , so I do socialise to a certain degree

henetha Mon 20-Jun-22 09:59:46

I feel exactly the same. I know for certain that I could never live with anyone ever again, (with the possible exception of my own children).
I have a small number of friends and I like to occasionally socialise, but I'm always glad to get home and be alone.
It's essential to me to have at least 4 or 5 days in the week when I don't have to see anyone. I wish I knew why I'm like this.

shysal Mon 20-Jun-22 09:09:01

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shysal Mon 20-Jun-22 09:08:25

I am feel the same. Having lived alone for 24 years after divorcing, I would never want to share my home again. I suppose I have just become selfish, but love being able to do exactly what I want when I want.

Madwoman11 Mon 20-Jun-22 08:51:34

When I was younger my fear was to have to live alone, but I have now lived by myself for several years and know I could never live with anyone again. I don't even like people staying overnight.
I do have a good social life but my home is my space. I do have some health problems and I'm in my late sixties. Does anyone else feel the same?