What the hell is he playing at.
What he is playing at is the waiting game, he is waiting for you to give in. It's worked before, why wouldn't it work again. Tell me Ganny2, is it going to this time?
First time he started getting angry amd said I'm trying to force him to make a decision.
Well surprise, of course you are! You know you can't keep living like this. He's waiting like some entitled deity for you to go crawling into his room telling him you're so sorry you were so unreasonable and yes of course you'll do as he asks because . . . oh, hold on a minute, how would that sentence end? Because what exactly?
Because you can't live without him? You've done it before (for 4yrs) and can do it again.
Because you can't afford your house without his financial help? Oops, no he doesn't contribute to household expenses.
Because he's such great fun to have around? Oh no, he treats you like 'dog poop'.
Why exactly?
Second time he said he's got no plans to move out.
Of course he's not planning to leave! As many previous posters have said, he's got it too good. Mumsnet would tell you to stop doing anything for him immediately if you haven't already. No cooking, no cups of tea, no washing and definitely no cleaning his room! I'd go further and say ignore him, don't try to talk to him to 'sort this out'. He'll just see as another sign of you starting to soften and come round to his point of view, as I suspect has happened in the past. Remember he doesn't want to sort this out, he wants you to agree to do what he says!
Ganny2 you know what you need to do! Tell him a date, get a friend or your son to be there to help and say goodbye.
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