allsorts I really empathise with your situation. I'm a widow of 5 years with a busy life with many hobbies and friends.
I just came off the phone last night after a heated discussion with my daughter. She had arranged a couple of months ago that I have the gc staying with me for a couple of days while they attend a wedding.
Because the in-laws at the last minute came over from Canada for the summer, she told me that they are now looking after them and seeing them nearly every day fir the 6 weeks they are here
I told her I was hurt and disappointed, as I was so looking forward to having my gc stay at my bolthole by the sea.
There was much sharing of how we disappointed we were with eachother for various reasons. She also couldn't remember when I was there for her for weeks cooking etc after the birth of the first gc. I probably said too much, as there was alot if resentment I'd built up.
The suggestions that we lead busy lives and acquire lots of friends is a given, and many of us who are on our own do that.
But I believe we don't expect enough of our loved ones. They should be concerned at our well being. My dd rarely contacts me, unless she wants me to babysit. I have to invite myself over to see the gc, rarely an invitation.
You are perfectly entitled to feel hurt and short changed at your time of life.
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