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Holiday without husband ?

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Notjustaprettyface Thu 03-Nov-22 20:53:02

My husband has considerable mobility issues and there is no guarantee that these will improve as he is 81 and also quite negative about his future prospects
As a result , in the last 3 years and with the added problem of covid , we haven’t had a holiday to speak of and even weekends / days out can be quite tricky
I am quite a lot younger than him and I miss going on holiday etc but I don’t know whether I should just go on my own and possibly feel guilty about leaving him or stay with him, do very little and feel resentful
Which of these 2 evils would you go for ?
I hope some of you will be able to offer some advice as it is really bothering me now
Thank you

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Lathyrus Sat 05-Nov-22 09:41:59

Maybe baby steps at first? It may sound a bit pathetic but just do a couple of nights away at a nice hotel 50 miles down the road.

After reading a book, “The selfish pigs guide to caring” I decided to leave my “piglet” for a weekend in the Cotswolds where I could do exactly as I liked without having to take anyone else’s needs into account. It was marvellous. And, you know what, he had a nice time too. Cue endless sport and car chase films.

Then I progressed to something a bit more distant with some extra fall-back support in place.

Don’t feel at all guilty🙂

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Meer13511 Wed 16-Nov-22 12:57:47

Go. Leave him some nice food if necessary.

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