daughter told me she is in relationship with another girl

My daughter were in a very similar situation 25 years ago , and she is still with the lady in question now . This are both very happy, lead good lives as both have good jobs . My daughter is now 45 , going back 10 years or so ago , I asked her how she felt about having children as her body clock is running out , she told me that they were both very happy and don’t feel the need to have children . You couldn’t ask for a happier couple so having children is not everything .

Your daughter must be so relieved you are accepting of her relationship. As for children it’s not impossible as has been said. As for your other question, yes a couple of my dd girlfriends were in same sex relationships for many years yet suddenly married men and became mothers. Not everyone is able though whoever they are with and it what it is..
Wishing you well. You sound a great mum and hopefully one day a happy grandma. B

You should be congratulated on bring up a confident daughter who is able to talk to you.
I have 2 cousins who each have daughters in same Sex relationship, everyone is happy.
Life takes us in different directions, we just embrace it.

It's her choice and her life. Just be supportive.

As has been said Jemimatheragdoll she may be a mum one day and if she ever becomes one, she's been set a wonderful example by you .

NanKate

Isn’t it great that we are more accepting of different forms of relationships, which in our parents day would have caused a riot?

My close friend has just gone through her son becoming her daughter at the age of 47, which has been quite shock but slowly she has been able to accept this new situation.

Good for her NanKate (both "hers")

Jemimatheragdoll seems like you have just acquired a second lovely daughter.

Thank goodness things have changed.

I used to know a lesbian couple who looked alike and dressed alike - at first I thought they were twins. After a bit, first one and then a year later the other was pregnant and they had a boy and a girl who also looked like each other. Not surprising as the sperm donors were each other's brothers. I once met one of the Grannies who was thrilled that the babies were both her natural grandchildren.

First - that is great news! Finding a compatible person is difficult and your dd is happy

Why wouldn't she have kids (if she wants them)?
Both adoption and biological are two totally viable options

My friends daughter has just had twin boys ....she been married to another woman for 3 years....she went to a clinic and was pregnant on the first attempt

She is 21, not 15 - so you hve to let her make her choices, and be there for her.

Has Jemimatheragdoll suggested that she won't let her make choices and won't be there for her?

She is happy, you are happy. Sounds like you are a lovely supportive Mum and we all worry about our children in some way or other.

If you have been looking forward to grandchildren then I can understand why you may be sad, but I think you have to roll with it.

My daughter and only child is 42 and while it is not too late for her to be a mother that is not her intention and she has never shown any sign of being maternal. That is why I am not a grandmother (and occasionally feel a bit of a fraud in this place). As a child I never had a close relationship with my grandparents; they were already elderly by the time I was born, lived at a considerable distance, and never really showed much interest in me when we did visit them. I do sometimes envy others who have close relationships with grandparents and grandchildren, but I try not to let it get to me. It's just something that was not to be my lot.

The best think I think is to delight in your daughter being happy, and try not to let your disappointment show.

She can have children if she wants to

Friends of mine had ivf using the egg from one and the womb of the other so that they would both feel like parents and they are so happy

Isn’t it great that we are more accepting of different forms of relationships, which in our parents day would have caused a riot?

My close friend has just gone through her son becoming her daughter at the age of 47, which has been quite shock but slowly she has been able to accept this new situation.

One of the better things about this century is that your daughter should have fewer problems with her life. The biggest concern for her has already been dealt with; she still has your love
You’re a wonderful mum for assuring her of her that, even if , in your mind you still wonder what may happen.
One niece shared the same experience with her parents and her aunts. She’s still unmarried, still happy with her partner and what she worried about most was family acceptance.

Lots of lesbian and gay couples have children

She is 21, not 15 - so you hve to let her make her choices, and be there for her.

I think it is good that your daughter has felt able to talk to you, and lovely that you have been supportive of her relationship. As others have said, tomorrow is another day. She is only 21, and may or may not still be in this relationship forever. Whether she is or isn't, she could still be a mother, if that's what she wants.

As you've said, this is about her, and if she's happy then that's all we can hope for for our children, and it's good that you know and like your daughter's girlfriend. She may go on to have relationships with men, or she may not. It doesn't matter, so long as she is happy. I know you know this, and are just adjusting to things not being as you expected, which is fine, too. As long as you can be happy for her, she is likely to continue to include you in her life, which is a blessing.

(this post was brought to you by the word 'happy' . That's always a good thing, though.)

Any woman in whatever relationship may not be a mother BUT equally a same sex reLationship may produce children

My best friends niece is in a same sex relationship and they have three children all born to the same Mum using the same doner
don’t jump ahead you ve done it all right so far wait and see you may have some surprises ahead
Good luck to you all

Our neighours are a female couple with two toddlers. No different from the hererosexual couple with toddlers who preceded them.

Firstly, your daughter is happy so brilliant ! There is absolutely no reason why you cannot look forward to grandchildren. My cousins daughter has been married to her wife for a number of years , they have two lovely children, Enough said I feel.

Grammaretto, thank you, none of my close friends are in the same situation as me so to hear of others who have gone through it is helpful

Grannyben, thank you

Debbie58, its a good point that any woman whatever their sexual orientation is not necessarily going to become a mother

Thank you Vito