Aaargh! Just as I sit down with a coffee....

Recovering from hysterectomy, asked my husband, now ex, to please put the hoover round, oh, where do we keep it? was his answer!

By the time I had done all that the day would be over and it would be dinner, tv and bed.

When we are out shopping my DH often walks out of the shop door with a parting remark to the shop assistant:
“I earned it SHE spends it”!
Despite the fact that I looked after the home and raised 2 children, then returned to work. Also, I did not receive a pension for my first 9 years working for a high street bank. Only men were given non contributory pension rights! When I fell pregnant with my first child I HAD to resign from my job. No maternity rights 50 years ago.

Couldn't ever really complain about mine, excellent cook, cleaned (including oven), emptied bins, ironed, decorated. He had his faults of course but wish he was still here.

biglouis

Glad to be divorced when I read threads like this.

Me too... but when my husband was alive we shared all the housework. We both worked and both lived in the house...it made sense then and still does. The thought of having to pretend to be working in the house horrifies me

Mine is wonderful around the house but at times a bit over zealous! I get told off for not cleaning my cup properly or not having things in the right order. The bed has to be the right amount of pillows in the right order and colour and cushions just so. Sometimes I put things in the wrong order to help him not become too obsessive Aaargh!

Nannylovesshopping

Recovering from hysterectomy, asked my husband, now ex, to please put the hoover round, oh, where do we keep it? was his answer!

My sisters husband once brought some washing downstairs and asked my sis when was she going to the laundrette. They'd had a washing machine for years.

pascal30 when my husband was alive we shared all the housework. We both worked and both lived in the house...it made sense then and still does. The thought of having to pretend to be working in the house horrifies me

Indeed. I'm quite glad he's still with me - all days.

He worked, I stayed home with our children and house.

Now, he's home and does as much cooking, baking, laundry, gift purchasing, hoovering as I do. He helps watch GC&GGC - they're his too.

My OH just doesn't get the idea of LISTENING to the radio! when he was at work the radio was on all the time just for the background music. I can't seem to listen to, say a play or article on Radio 4 without him wanting a chat about something totally unconnected.

What gets me is when he sits at the dining room table, watching me get dinner, then just before it's ready to serve up, he gets up and walks off!

God forgive me, my husband is a pain in the backside. Feel guilty as he’s supported me financially and is a good man but I struggle with the role reversal -I do everything and it’s not the physicality of that but mentally, it’s strain.

I only have my DS at home now. he moans about things that haven't been done - but does nothing to help. his excuse! - he pays me board and works long hours.
The fact i have a 40 hr week job, do his accounts and run a part time business, as well as having an illness that wipes me out most of the time, never comes into the equation.
Now i just don't do what i don't have time to do (or CBA to do). I've realised he will do it when his friends come to visit, so that for me is enough.
I always say we will never be burgled, as if anyone ever broke in they would think we had already been burgled.

What I never understand is why so many women make rods for their own backs.
You laugh about him asking where the hoover is kept but honestly, if the jobs were equally shared, he would know because you'd have shown him and you'd have tried the machine together.
Someone I once knew was about to have a hysterectomy.
Before going into hospital she filled the freezer full of home cooking and exhausted herself. Because in her own words "she didn't let him in the kitchen"
I doubt they are still married.
Who could live with a partner like her!

nadateturbe

Smileless when I thank my son, he asks me what his wife bought me.
Men are funny. Their idea of "we".
Having said that I get breakfast on a tray almost every morning and a foot massage every evening.

Would that be "The Royal We" by any chance.?

Glammanana definitely.
Christmas presents "who have we still to buy?" 😄

Both ex DH’s were housework shy….not going there again.

50 years ago when my niece was little she went running up to my Mum shouting "Granny, Granny! Grandad's in the kitchen!!"

It was a very rare event!

Jacks10, other way round here - I’ve more than once had to ask (exasperated!) whether he can actually read labels, when he’s come home with pork mince instead of beef, or a joint of pork instead of gammon. And I have to be absolutely specific with lists.

It’s not deliberate in the hope of not being asked again - he actually likes shopping. I still do most of the food shop though.
However, he’s not a bad old bugger really - I wouldn’t swop him!

Grammaretto I certainly didn’t laugh, and quite soon after divorced him, he left me for his secretary who apparently had a cleaning lady, so hoovering was not a problem, more his fidelity issues, he is now on wife number three who has taken him to the cleaners, am now sniggering!

We wouldn't swop them, but they do make us laugh at times.

Nannylovesshopping I'd be sniggering too.

We were married for 51 years and he wasn't the best at housework (he didn't notice) but he was a great cook and loved to look after us all.
He died 2 years ago. I miss him every day as do the DC and the DGC as does his mum who was his inspiration.
My sister and I both married the sons of professional chefs! We chuckle about it.

Mine lived on his tod for 8 years with a visiting girlfriend, so ok with housework once set in right direction and given instructions he's fine! And he only has to be shown the once and it's in there forever! Does shopping and maintains tidy kitchen , changes his bed when I tel him,(I snore like a drain) and keeps room clean etc. All ok but I just know that if I decided not to prompt - he'd not just do these tasks as a matter of course.........

Don’t you just love the royal ‘we’? My husband does nothing - I have to give him a hint about even making a drink when I have been cleaning etc.

All sounding very familiar
While we worked we ‘ shared’ the cleaning ie half a house each but this has slacked off now
Gets ott about items positioning in dishwasher etc and moves things around a lot in the home which means I can’t find them !
Will always! pitch up if I have a 2 minute break and sit down to be quiet and then wants to talk
Deaf to most polite requests unless it’s shall we have a G and T and nuts which can be heard from a room away
Selective hearing ..

Also had to ask 6 times for a drink when recovering from an op recently