Explosive row with daughter

Gingster I did the same with my daughter it was stress over the cancer treatment, the drugs didn't help and neither did the constant scans and waiting for results. It blew over and im sure you will be on good terms in a while. A little break from each other helps. Sending you hugs and good wishes.

I'm sorry.
I think an apology, for 'gigantic row' to begin sorting, is best.

Gingster I’m in the same boat at the moment 😫

Gingster try not to worry, it will pass. A similar thing happened to me last week, right out of the blue, at a time when DD and I are both seriously out of our comfort zones. It was devastating, for both of us. It won’t hurt for you both to take a step back. Normal service will be resumed I’m sure. In the meantime, I send you both a big hug.

I think you have done the right thing by sending a message. A few days of reflection is probably the best and then draw a line and start afresh.

I’ve messaged Dd but had no reply as yet. I think a cooling off period is called for. I know it won’t last long but we both need to step away for a few days and calm down.
Thanks for thinking of us. ❤️

You'll find the right words to say, say them soon and accept what she says. It is a very stressful time for you both made worse by Christmas looming.

How are things today Gingster? Having followed the ‘journey’ (hate that word, but can’t conjure up a better one) you’re on with your DD, I was so sorry to read your post yesterday. As others have said emotions must be raw and nerves shredded.
I sincerely hope you are able to patch things up. Christmas, ill health and an enforced move do not augur well, for a happy, peaceful time. I really wish you both back on an even keel. X

PLEASE,please do not let this fester. A lovely Card, perhaps some flowers, anything, as long as she gets the message of SO SORRY, LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!!!

If you can't sort it out by talking now, you could just send a text saying that no matter how things were left, you love her. At least you will reassure that you are there ready to support again. Meanwhile, a big virtual hug from me who has had these moments with her daughter and knows how it rips you apart inside.

Gingster
Nothing to add but I hope you will hug and make up

A mother's place is always in the wrong (even if we know we're right).

And kittylester

Emotions are very raw given the circumstances

I agree with vs

Thankyou everyone for your time and good wishes. Lots of good advice. ❤️

Ginster, not much to add to the kindly advice given here.
If you can, go and hug her, she probably needs it, wants it, but is not sure how to ask.
Her mind is no doubt, all over the place, with her treatment and worry. I can't imagine what you are going through as well.

When I had my bone cancer diagnosis, I honestly didn't think that I would see last Christmas, but I am still here for this one.
Sending you both lots and lots of love and hugs.

Can you phone or visit as soon as possible Gingster? Hope you make up soon. You will both feel much better x

A forced move on top of Cancer treatment - not to mention Christmas thrown in will be putting you both under enormous pressure. Things do get said. Hope you can both put it behind you and move on because she's going to need you in the New Year.

Sounds like you are both stressed to the max Gingster take advice from dragonfly and give her a hug. Don't take it too much to heart these things happen. My eldest & I are so alike we often flare up at each other, still friends though thankfully. Good luck.

Oh dear. I hope you can patch things up. A few years ago, I lost my temper with our DD over the way we were being treated. I am usually a mouse but I was fed up so this mouse roared. She wasn't happy but thankfully we are still on good terms.

Gingster I have pm’d you xxx

Gingster I agree with everyone else. It's the stress! Acnd, possibly the drugs. You have been amazing- you both know that. I think it's inevitable!

Our 47 year old DD told us that our form of parenting wasn't working for her so I know how difficult biting one's tongue is.

Go and give her a hug Gingster. It sounds as if you both need it. Sending hugs to you both from me.

Thanks lovely ladies. I felt I had to unload and knew I would have support here.
She’s also got to vacate her house (rented) as it’s being sold. Stress and pressure of trying to find her somewhere else. She has to move just after Christmas.

I agree with Dragonfly I always say I'm sorry because I am the responsible adult supposedly
I bite my tongue a lot till it's sore.
I hope this frisson blows over soon.
It's totally understandable.

I am so sorry to hear this Gingster. I have had some humdingers with my DD also and know how you feel. I am sure she is feeling just as bad.
You are both bottling up your worries and sooner or later things explode.
Try to sort it out sooner rather than later. You love each other and that is what matters. I always made the first move as I saw myself as the grownup. One one occasion when I approached DD I found her to be in bits also.

I do hope you sort things out - sending love.

I still haven't forgotten the hateful things my daughter said about me last year out of the blue.Luckily she is staying with my son this Christmas so I will only see her on the Sunday.