I Think We're On Different Paths

I recently "met" someone on line who supposedly lives not far from me. In the course of our talks he mentioned that he was divorced due to the fact that his ex had messed around. He also mentioned she passed soon after the divorce. They shared an eight year old son. I think he has full custody. He has been throwing out compliments almost from day one: "you're beautiful" .. "you're so funny." Among others until the I love you's. I realize that actions speak louder than words.

Regardless of the fact that he (in my opinion) is hoping that I will say it back and mean it ...I have had my share of helping to bring up someone's kids. I have my son that despite the fact he's 33, he still talks to me about whatever is going on in his mind at the time.

Long story short, I don't want or need someone's issues on my plate .. helping to raise another child with all that could entail is not in this woman's picture.

I wrote him a long "Dear John" and am calling it quits. I hate letting someone down but at this point in my life, my immediate family is more important.

MY LIFE WHATEVER IT CONTAINS IS MORE IMPORTANT.

Being a grown up isn't easy. but I'm trying.

I'm not asking you guys what to do ....I need your comments before I proceed.

Thanks!