Dealing with sisters distress with her falling out with another sister.

It sounds like they are in a tough spot. It's never easy when family members fight, and it's even worse when they won't talk to each other. It's great that you're trying to be there for your younger sister, but it's important to remember that you can't force anyone to get along. Your younger sister might find it helpful to talk to a therapist or counselor about her feelings and come to a place where she can accept them. As for your older sister, she might be having problems of her own and need some space. Keep reaching out to her in a kind and respectful way, but if she's not ready to talk, try to respect her space. At the end of the day, all you can do is be there for your family and hope that they can find a way to fix things on their own.

Oh yes, Nanadana, drains and radiators; I know exactly what you mean, and there is very little you can do with drains, unfortunately.

Thanks everyone. I think talking things through with her although upsetting has helped, accepting there’s little we can do without communication from elder sister. Seems pointless waste of time to keep going over it, all we can do for now is wait until we hear from her, if we ever do. Thanks a lot. 🌼

Such a painful experience when a family member chooses to cut all ties. You certainly haven't made things worse by trying to support your Sister... quite the opposite. Sadly, you both may have to accept this situation, and this may take some time. It will never go away completely, but will become easier. I know because this has happened to me. I eventually realised that in this life, some people are radiators, and give off warm, positive vibes, whilst others are drains, and are best avoided. These days, my focus is very much on the radiators. Counselling may help your Sister get to that warmer place, and to get on with her life. Hope it all works out.

Sibling troubles are very hard..I can't understand how you have made things worse. I don't see flying monkeys unless you are both dissing elder sister, I'm sure you are not, but if you are becoming deeply uncomfortable then the suggestion of counselling for younger sister may help you stand back a bit. Sounds like you cant "solve" her pain -sure you've tried.

I would highly recommend for both sisters to address this if/when they are ready- flying monkeys only make it worse

What seems trivial to one person is very important to someone else - what happened?

Step back and do not get involved

Thank you both, working through it. 💐

This is such a sad story. You are there for your younger sister and I am sure she appreciates that. Not much more you can do other than continue to support her. Good luck.

Oh dear, this sounds both complicated and painful. You all have my sympathy.

I wonder if your sister might benefit from counselling? Nobody can change your older sister’s mind about whether she wants contact or not. Only time will tell what happens there. But with help your younger sister may be able to cope with the hurt and move on.