Tgran
Thank you all for your comments.
I want to make it clear that I get on very well with the in laws, no problem there at all, it’s just the ‘friends’ bit, it has not gone on to that level, and I feel that because of their lifestyle, I don’t fit in with them.
I am very very (eternally) grateful that they treat my daughter as one of their own, it could be so different I know.
I just wanted to see others relationships with in laws.
Aside from the inadequacy, I don’t have an awful lot in common with them, so there lies the lack of opportunity to connect.
And as a PP said I MUST stop comparing!!! It is the thief of joy..
Getting on well with people who treat your daughter nicely is really all that's needed. Connecting may be unnecessary?
Our daughters' parentsIL live at other ends of the country, we never see them, I'm not bothered. One widowed daughter is remarrying, both near 60 - I doubt we'll be "friends" with his elderly parents who live in Ireland. Matters not to us.
Yes, stop comparing! Comparing always makes me grumpy.