Getting 'told off' by DH anyone else experienced this strange behaviour?

Callistemon21

Poppyred

Nicegranny’s post is in answer to Kalu’s post about her mother. 😳

Which you have obviously misunderstood.

I was just pointing out the reason why nicegranny had made such a comment - didn’t say I agreed with it! THANK YOU

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Kalu

Nicegranny

My mother used to say that “men get miserable when they get older”.
I’m so glad I’m divorced and happily living on my own.

How many men did your mother know to make such a ridiculous statement?

What on earth was there to take exception to in this light-hearted statement?
Kalu did not criticise your mother unless you were interpreting her post in the “Biblical” sense.
It is /was ridiculous to make such a sweeping generalisation - many others could attest to the contrary
Come off it!

This thread has taken rather a strange turn.

Doodledog

One Foot In The Grave was so popular because Victor Meldrew struck a chord with so many .

Mine's not too bad, but when he is I veer between ignoring it and taking GagaJo's response. I do think that some of them are a bit lost - for decades they've been in whatever role they had at work, then suddenly they aren't, and there is no job description. It's true for us as well though, which can be easy to forget.

Perhaps we should write them a job description when they retire.
And perhaps women don't need one because they can see what needs doing 🙂

A bit more polite is an Australian expression I've heard used
"Just pull your head in, will you".
Seems to work.

I would try to change things from a completely different angle.

I am assuming your husband has recently retired, so sit him down and ask him what he intends to do now that he has retired.

You have both still many good years ahead of you, I trust, so don't let him detoriate into a nagging, dictatorial husband.

Ask him not to leave his glasses lying on the arms of chairs, or anywhere else where they easily can be overlooked and damaged.

If anyone still uses the two perfectly good bikes, it is ridiculous to take them to the scrapyard - tidy up in the shed and see if you can't get room both for the gardening tools and the bikes, or buy a bigger shed. If the bikes are not regularily used, sell them.

Unless you were being sarcastic when you asked him for a list of dos and don'ts, you have made a rod for your own back there! I hope if he does write it that you will not "abide by it", but will hang it up in place of the toilet roll with appropriate instructions!

Do you really want to spend the rest of your life pandering to a man who is treating you like a child? If not, stand up for yourself now.

What do you want to do with your retirement? Tell your husband how you envisage this new phase of your life.

I keep expect the misandry hunter to pop up at any moment!

I hope if he does write it that you will not "abide by it", but will hang it up in place of the toilet roll with appropriate instructions!

😂😂😂

Perhaps we should write them a job description when they retire.
And perhaps women don't need one because they can see what needs doing 🙂

Generalisation alert - I think that on the whole women have numerous roles and can switch between one and another more easily.

Not everyone does . . , some husbands are perfect. . . , I know. I'm scared to post on this thread, as it feels like open season.

My DH is practically perfect in every way 😁

It's a result of good training. Not just by me, I hasten to add.

As is mine Calli….well, practically anyway.

I do think women are more adaptable, just my opinion but once DH also retired, he realised it was time to share more of the load. Of course he has some grumpy moments but I do too so it’s possibly quite even in our house. We definitely don’t agree about everything. 😂

Judging by some posts, grumpiness is not entirely unknown on the distaff side

One Foot in the Grave was so popular because Victor Meldrew struck a chord with so many

My Mum always said she couldn't watch it as it was too much like real life!

Update: glasses are in the coffee table and no stupidness since I told him he's getting like my father! Btw I was being sarcastic when I told him to write me a list!

Pheew! I had a neighbour, about 30 like me at the time, whose husband used to write her lists of things to do during the day, item by item, cleaning, etc.

Grannybags

^One Foot in the Grave was so popular because Victor Meldrew struck a chord with so many^

My Mum always said she couldn't watch it as it was too much like real life!

The DD call DH Victor sometimes 😁

Do any of you understand how your throw away comments cause upset to others?
I have not long lost my dear lovely mum and I have objected to KALU’s comments. It’s not funny, it’s not kind and it’s not clever.
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Some people have even backed her up with sarcasm and underhanded remarks that I find offensive and immature.
Some of you and you know who you are should be in the play ground.

Fleurpepper

Pheew! I had a neighbour, about 30 like me at the time, whose husband used to write her lists of things to do during the day, item by item, cleaning, etc.

Fleurpepper I remember my landlady years ago telling me that her daughter was newly married to a Royal Marine. They were stationed overseas and he used to leave her a list of daily orders each morning before he left for work.
As she was a strong-minded young woman, just like her mother, she ignored them.

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Nicegranny

I am sorry to hear about your mother.

However, there was nothing in the least offensive about Kalu's post.
It was just a query about how your mother came to that conclusion.

Most of us knew our fathers, may have had brothers, uncles, cousins, worked with men all our working lives.

I will freely admit that women can be grumpy too.

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Nicegranny

And that’s exactly the kind of ignorance I’m talking about.

What ignorance?

It is absolutely true.

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I have reported your posts and told GNHQ that you may be a troll.