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Getting 'told off' by DH anyone else experienced this strange behaviour?

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Curiousdan Thu 06-Apr-23 00:12:15

Hi, my DH is 67 and retired. Today I sat on his glasses and the lens fell out. It was my fault because I should know that he always keeps his glasses on the arm of the chair. A few days ago I should have known he was driving a certain route to go to a supermarket and he was angry because I should have said we didn't need to go shopping. Just now I knocked his glasses again by coming in through the door and walking too close to the sofa. There's about an 18 inch space to walk into the room but he was 'perplexed' as to why I got so close to the sofa arm. Once when I was out he rang and told me off for leaving the bedroom door open when DS2's friends were in the house - I'd not been in all day smile you get the picture. Okay so these things are trivial on the scale of things but also very annoying. I told him to write a list of things I can and can't do and I will try to abide by it! He's always been a bit like this but the 'you should have known' is a new one. I also asked if the gardening tools could go in the shed and he said yes but the bikes would have to go to the scrapyard (they are perfectly good bikes). It's all a bit absurd and it's almost like he cannot see logic. If you read this post thank you, I needed to talk to someone.

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Fleurpepper Fri 07-Apr-23 18:52:49

What on earth is going on here?

Callistemon21 Fri 07-Apr-23 18:53:53

Goodness knows, it's all rather odd.

I've been busy today so was only just catching up.

Oreo Fri 07-Apr-23 19:03:31

DP is a tradesman who works all hours, so gawd knows what he’ll do when he retires, maybe never retire? I think loads of men get grumpy with age according to friends.Loss of control?
Feeling past their sell by date?

Fleurpepper Fri 07-Apr-23 19:12:31

OH worked amazingly long hours, nights, week-ends, all his working life. I did wonder how he would react when he retired. I needn't have worried, he is catching up with all the things he never had time to do, music, learning an instrument, learning a couple of languages, playing bridge, photography, and so much more.

MerylStreep Fri 07-Apr-23 19:27:34

Hetty58

My husbands would never have dared to talk to me that way. I was the one 'in charge' and they knew it.

Nothing to be proud of. Nobody should be in charge in a relationship.

pascal30 Fri 07-Apr-23 19:41:09

Fleurpepper

OH worked amazingly long hours, nights, week-ends, all his working life. I did wonder how he would react when he retired. I needn't have worried, he is catching up with all the things he never had time to do, music, learning an instrument, learning a couple of languages, playing bridge, photography, and so much more.

He sounds fantastic.. well done him...

Callistemon21 Fri 07-Apr-23 19:45:57

Fleurpepper

OH worked amazingly long hours, nights, week-ends, all his working life. I did wonder how he would react when he retired. I needn't have worried, he is catching up with all the things he never had time to do, music, learning an instrument, learning a couple of languages, playing bridge, photography, and so much more.

Mine did need a little nudge!
But then took to retirement enthusiastically.

Luckygirl3 Fri 07-Apr-23 20:19:14

He tells you off ..... hmmm. Tell him he is not the boss and you have no intention of listening to this.

Why did you ask him if the gardening tools could go in the shed? Why do you need his permission? Just do it.

Iam64 Sat 08-Apr-23 20:08:47

My husband took redundancy as part of Cameron’s austerity programme to demolish upper management structures in local authorities. He was unhappy, hadn’t planned to retire for 5 more years. He enjoyed his role. Within weeks the NHS approached him, offering half time work, doing what he’d been doing in l.a. (Amalgamating social and health care ). So he worked in that 3 years, alongside painting, historical research, walking, looking after granchchildren and developing life for full retirement. Happy days, for which I;ll be eternally grateful given his recent death

Curiousdan Sun 09-Apr-23 00:04:07

Thanks for your replies. I made an earlier reply but lots of posts seem to have been deleted.
I was being sarcastic when I told DH to make a list smile