30 year old man in a big age gap relationship

I appreciate the comments, but it seems most people think I'm lying so I'm not going to engage anymore. It seems people are fixated on the sex part, even though it's a normal thing when you're dating.

She may have dumped you long before. She has choices too.

Millie22

Oh fgs

#windup

I sincerely hope that it is for the woman’s sake

Oh fgs

#windup

Sounds like the OP plans on enjoying the sex for the next few months, then will be ready to move on to pastures new.

Oh dear.

Charming!!

Hope she's on GN and reading this.
Run for the hills, if you are!

Callistemon21

BlueBelle

Look you ve only known her 4 months stop stressing enjoy each other and see what happens

But don't string her along for years

You are right, I am going to let the relationship cook for 8 months to 12 months and make a decision at that point. I'm not dragging it out for 2 or 3 years and treating this like a long term hookup.

BlueBelle

Look you ve only known her 4 months stop stressing enjoy each other and see what happens

But don't string her along for years

If my son met somebody who made him happy - then her age would be irrelevant - I'd be so pleased. Any problems caused by the age gap can be overcome, so enjoy your new relationship.

Look you ve only known her 4 months stop stressing enjoy each other and see what happens

Oldnproud

MALayhee700

Callistemon21

MALayhee700

Oldnproud

I'm curious, OP - what made you think of asking this question on Gransnet?

I was looking for another forum, I don't like Reddit or Quora

I don't blame you.

I know someone who was in a relationship with a woman 20 years older than him - it seemed to work ok until he was 40 and she was picking up her State Pension.
He looked ahead a few years and panicked.

I see I have some skeptics here, but I'm not here to prove anything, just to find a better outlet to communicate with others. Reddit is the worst site on the internet, I can't get anything useful from it and the trolls never cease.

It does suck for older women with younger men, older men aren't burdened with biology and pairing with younger women often isn't a problem for us.

I'm not saying I will follow the same path, I can only really live in the moment. I just know personally I can accept the consequences for dating someone older, because when someone reaches their 60s, it's going to be a relationship most younger people don't want to deal with.

Fair enough, OP. I apologise for doubting you.

However, a word of warning.
The fact that you are talking about children in the future suggests that if you committed to your girlfriend, you would be looking at a long-term relationship.

At the age you are now, fifteen years age difference :sounds a lot, but does not necessarily feel a lot when you are together. Unfortunately, that often reverses as you both get older, with it no longer sounding such a big age difference, but when one of you is their sixties and the other heading for eighty, the difference can feel enormous.
I'm sure this isn't true for all such couples, but it is very, very common.

I understand there will come a point where I need to make a life defining decision, because I know if I commit, she's going to be 60 when I'm 45. I know at 45 I will have enough energy to commit to a kid, but I can't be promised she will have the energy at 60. I might be enjoying the moment to a fault, but I'm sort of overlooking her age because we match on most categories.

We have the same interests in art, literature and traveling locations. We don't share all the same hobbies, but we have fun either way.

She hasn't gone too much into the kid details this early, she was just expressing she hasn't reached menopause and that she is looking for kids because she regrets not having them when she was younger.

MALayhee700

Callistemon21

MALayhee700

Oldnproud

I'm curious, OP - what made you think of asking this question on Gransnet?

I was looking for another forum, I don't like Reddit or Quora

I don't blame you.

I know someone who was in a relationship with a woman 20 years older than him - it seemed to work ok until he was 40 and she was picking up her State Pension.
He looked ahead a few years and panicked.

I see I have some skeptics here, but I'm not here to prove anything, just to find a better outlet to communicate with others. Reddit is the worst site on the internet, I can't get anything useful from it and the trolls never cease.

It does suck for older women with younger men, older men aren't burdened with biology and pairing with younger women often isn't a problem for us.

I'm not saying I will follow the same path, I can only really live in the moment. I just know personally I can accept the consequences for dating someone older, because when someone reaches their 60s, it's going to be a relationship most younger people don't want to deal with.

Fair enough, OP. I apologise for doubting you.

However, a word of warning.
The fact that you are talking about children in the future suggests that if you committed to your girlfriend, you would be looking at a long-term relationship.

At the age you are now, fifteen years age difference :sounds a lot, but does not necessarily feel a lot when you are together. Unfortunately, that often reverses as you both get older, with it no longer sounding such a big age difference, but when one of you is their sixties and the other heading for eighty, the difference can feel enormous.
I'm sure this isn't true for all such couples, but it is very, very common.

If it’s a 30yo straight male and a 45yo straight female, continue your relationship for a year or two you dont need to get married. If she has never had children pregnancy is unlikely naturally, marriage just complicates the relationship .
Enjoy but don’t rush in.

Callistemon21

MALayhee700

Oldnproud

I'm curious, OP - what made you think of asking this question on Gransnet?

I was looking for another forum, I don't like Reddit or Quora

I don't blame you.

I know someone who was in a relationship with a woman 20 years older than him - it seemed to work ok until he was 40 and she was picking up her State Pension.
He looked ahead a few years and panicked.

I see I have some skeptics here, but I'm not here to prove anything, just to find a better outlet to communicate with others. Reddit is the worst site on the internet, I can't get anything useful from it and the trolls never cease.

It does suck for older women with younger men, older men aren't burdened with biology and pairing with younger women often isn't a problem for us.

I'm not saying I will follow the same path, I can only really live in the moment. I just know personally I can accept the consequences for dating someone older, because when someone reaches their 60s, it's going to be a relationship most younger people don't want to deal with.

My son is 38, his partner is 10 years older than him. They met in the workplace and have been together 5 years now.
My son is not paternal so not having children of his own is not on his agenda.
They are very happy together.

MALayhee700

Oldnproud

I'm curious, OP - what made you think of asking this question on Gransnet?

I was looking for another forum, I don't like Reddit or Quora

I don't blame you.

I know someone who was in a relationship with a woman 20 years older than him - it seemed to work ok until he was 40 and she was picking up her State Pension.
He looked ahead a few years and panicked.

Ok take the relationship as it comes and don’t even think of any future after four months ( and I m definitely your granny

You can have two people in their 20s wanting children and none comes along, you can have two people young or old not wanting children and one comes along It’s far, far, far too early to be worrying, you may fall well out of love and will have wasted all that time worrying.
Relax, enjoy each others company, and if it continues and becomes serious, then you can start discussing housing pregnancies and finances

Foxygloves

Fleurpepper

Why are you all assuming Malayhee is male?

I have a friend who has just married a man 35 years younger than him- they are both male.

Because the title refers to a 30 year old man?
#whatitsaysonthetin

That reminds me of the TV program where they said: remember The clues are there
They were mainly hidden but that one in the OP was pretty obvious 😄

I think it’s a wind up too

Taking the OP at face value.

In the 90s a relative of my now ex was in a relationship with the most lovely and beautiful older Swedish girl who was already a mother - about the same ages as in the OP. He decided with a heavy heart to end the relationship as knew that sometime in the future he did want children but not in the immediate years. He was sad, and she was heartbroken.

He went on the marry in his mid-30s and now has one child.

I think op wants to know how ‘we’ would react if he were our son and he brought a woman home who was the same age as us

Foxy ah, those were the days…☺️

Hello 👋
Yes, thanks for coming back
I’m the same age as your dad.
When I was 26 I met my husband who was 52

MALayhee700

NotSpaghetti

Thank you for coming back MALayhee700 - I expect most of us are similar in age to your parents.

My mother is 49 and my dad is 51

So possibly the same sort of age as our children!