New relationship over 60?

I also thought I preferred a bar of chocolate then I totally unexpectedly met my now second husband. You never know what or who is around the corner.

Give me a bar of chocolate and take the sex elsewhere!
That's my attitude. 🤣

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I found I still had a sex drive whilst I was on HRT, it diminished considerably when the GP refused to continue to prescribe it

Please check with your GP of course but I’m sure your fears are ungrounded.

Jane43 that's wonderful news! Having breast cancer was no picnic but then to have this to worry about since has been consuming me! This is great know, thank you!!!!

Gigi1958. I had breast cancer 4.5 years ago and I also have a prolapse and take topical oestrogen using a pessary. I asked my GP if I should stop taking it and she said no because the oestrogen stays in the vaginal tissue. She said if I was concerned I could stop it but as far as she was concerned there is no danger.

Ugg I feel the same way. My sex drive is just about gone, but I want a "boyfriend". It's a bit of a conundrum! I was diagnosed with breast cancer last year and had to stop using my vaginal estrogen. A bit personal but since quitting it, things below have not been happy, the thought of having sex hurts me physically. How do I talk about that with a new man? Somedays it feels like I'm wishing for something that is not even realistic. Sometimes I just wish I had a great gay best friend that would be sooooo much fun!!!!

Don't focus too much on what it might be like when you meet someone. Just think about how nice it could be if you do. Then as you get to know each person, you'll decide if its right for you. If you're lucky enough to meet mr. right first time, you'll just know. I didn't have any sex at all for 20 years. I'd decided to be on my own as I'd been so unlucky with relationships in the past. Now at 73 I'm enjoying a beautiful and full relationship. Keep an open mind for now and expect to be disappointed a few times. There is a good man out there hoping to meet you some day. Good luck.

I know a couple who met on Classic FM.

What’s the dating site they met on please?

Someone I know met a new man online during lockdown. (Both aged 70 at that time.) Eventually they were able to meet and now they have a very happy relationship - sex included! They've kept their own homes, (where they each stay, from time to time), they have no intention of ever marrying, (each was married before) and they're very happy. Several times a year they go on holiday together. (I've met the man several times and I like him. He's great for her, and vice-versa.) So it can happen when you're over sixty!

Thanks for your comments and suggestions. I can’t imagine myself going out with a man in his 70s, yikes! My last partner was younger than me. Lathyrus, you give me hope. And you’re right, it’s just part of a relationship. I think the hard part may be finding a man whose company I enjoy at least as much as my own. I don’t know about everyone else, but I know in the past I’ve been on dates where I thought I’d rather be home alone. If I do manage to meet someone who’s right for me, I’m thinking I should talk to my GP about my lack of libido.

I was having

(He certainly wasn’t handsome 😬)

I was handsome if the best sex of my life at 63. The kind you read about in books with the earth moving and stuff like that😬
And also some of the worst😱

It’s all about the right man.

But that’s the sex bit. Looking for a partner is quite different.

Personally I think you’re most likely to meet a compatible partner at an interest that you both share. Then sex is a part, but not necessarily a big part, of a relationship.

I absolutely think that meeting the right person can change everything and sex and pleasing their partner is very important to a lot of older men. I once commented to a GP that I wouldn't imagine many men in their 80s came to ask him for viagra. He told me that I would be very surprised.

As men seem to want to be dating younger women the men you meet will likely be over 70, their sex drive is often lower or they cannot perform at all so there will be men happy with a sexless relationship.

If you are meeting men online there will be an opportunity to chat for a while, that would be the time to say that you do not want a physical relationship, then they have the chance not to continue if they think differently.

I would have thought this was a question asked when completing the profile questions so like-minded people can be matched.

It’s a question of finding the right man, I hadn’t had a cuddle for 10yrs and just assumed my sex life was over. How wrong I was, a man that looks after you and presses all the right buttons makes a massive difference.
Having similar interests makes it so much easier, hobbies, days out even TV programmes, good luck!.