Dd in a coercive relationship

Once again thank you I am pushing her to women's aid and refuge.
I'm glad she is a strong woman as I feel she would have crumbled. But she doesn't want to be the mother who keeps dc away from dear father but I fear they are damaging dgc.

oliversnana

Thank you for the replies.
She has been off social media for a while now and he has benefits and her own wages so finances are ok and he nolonger has access to her bank accounts.she is on the council list for a new home. I'm hoping when she reports the rest of the incidents to the police this will help her up the list. He had to be told by the police while she was reporting the person watching her house to leave her alone as what he was doing was harrrassment. He'll probably be crying later, he's told aher sevaral times he's suicidal which also messes with her head.

Women's Aid/Refuge can sometimes push people forward on a waiting list, and give her some good advice.

www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/

Hope she gets on ok. 💐

Contact Womens Aid and Victim Support. Get legal advice on obtaining a restraining order if it’s been passed on to the police . Change your mobile number , email and cancel social media accounts.

As someone who left and prosecuted a violent coercive husband I know what I’m talking about . DO NOT underestimate him such men always escalate

Thank goodness she's reported this to the police; that would have been my first suggestion and coming off social media was going to be my second.

If he contacts her threatening suicide, that would be another reason to contact the police if she knows where he is.

As jenpax has posted, she needs to contact Women's Aid asap.

You must be worried sick oliversnana. I hope something can be sorted out.

Has she contacted Women's Aid? This should be her first resource as they are well used to helping survivors of DV in all its forms

Thank you for the replies.
She has been off social media for a while now and he has benefits and her own wages so finances are ok and he nolonger has access to her bank accounts.she is on the council list for a new home. I'm hoping when she reports the rest of the incidents to the police this will help her up the list. He had to be told by the police while she was reporting the person watching her house to leave her alone as what he was doing was harrrassment. He'll probably be crying later, he's told aher sevaral times he's suicidal which also messes with her head.

please (if you can) seek professional help ie local DV services in your area and get as much support as possible - please do not do anything sudden as if a perpetrator knows his supply is being cut he can escalate and that’s a very difficult situation to navigate.
you can google local domestic services/ helplines ie womens aid and safe spaces to start to create a plan of how to leave this situation.

sometimes fear and anxiety plus financial abuse can make a person fearful of escape - i definitely recommend professional guidance.

Block her phone, change the locks then move elsewhere.

What a nasty man he is! She would be better off severing all ties with him and concentrating her energy on raising her children.

She can stop the phone calls by changing her number and staying off social media; alternately she can block his calls. Either way, he will not change and will continue to make her life a misery.