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Am I a nag ?

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Worrywart Wed 20-Sept-23 18:17:41

Married 42 years, blighted by my illness but still together. Because of my health I like to keep on top of the housework etc and like things neat, tidy and organised (I have memory problems ) . As my husband is getting older he has become by his own admission lazy and will only what do what he wants when he wants ( rugby, drinking socialising ) . He is very messy and I seem to spend my life picking up and cleaning up after him. He’s ok with leaving the mess ‘until later’ whereas I like to get things done. I find the more time we spend together the more we bicker about everything - and as I’m disabled I feel woild I be better on my own or should I just chillax a bit. I think he’s depressed as well and just can’t be bothered - that said he still works part time by choice and hates being in the house all day.
Can anyone relate ?

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Farmor15 Fri 06-Oct-23 09:08:45

I can identify with your situation, jeannie! I do most things in house and garden but the difference is that I enjoy doing them. My OH is happy to sit for long periods whereas I get bored and would rather be doing something. Apart from housework, which mostly just doesn't get done!
Mine is also argumentative- sometimes I don't get drawn into it but other times I can't let it go - which is really the best solution.
There's probably no easy answer for long marriages like these - mostly we get on OK- I've just accepted that he's not going to do much at this stage of life. It causes more stress to get bothered by it.

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