My DD has been married for 7years together for 9 years before that . 2 wonderful adopted GC. Her husband works hard is great with kids but we’ve never been close it’s felt as if she’s kept us at a distance.
Over the last year she’s been having counselling and it has felt like I’ve been getting my DD back. She’s been talking more and I’ve been able to help her , the house is chaotic 2 children with SEN
I’ve had to bite my lip many times as they are often glued to their phones instead of doing basic housework. Recently she asked me if I thought she had ADHD and it’s been like a light bulb moment. It explains so much of her issues with organisation and poor timekeeping. Her relationship with her dad has been strained for many years because it was like she did things just to anatagonise him.
I digress. We had a very frank discussion and she told me some things about her marriage that has left me reeling. Her H doesn’t touch her or want intimacy for over 16!yrs - She is wondering about ending her marriage and Co parenting with her H as friends
Leaving the kids with him in the family home as he’s the bigger Warner- she works full time . But going before and after school , basically just not sleeping there.
She’s talking about letting him have the house etc
I don’t think she is thinking this through and I’m very worried about her emotional and financial future.
Her H obviously cares about her , bends over backwards to make her happy but …..
She’s so young to feel undesirable.
I’m really struggling to be supportive but at the same time don’t want her to make mistakes she will regret
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