Bit of background, been friends with two couples since teenage years, see each other socially regularly, but we each have our own additional friends circle too.
Worked with one of the couple females (call her Y) and I was in a senior capacity, only mention this as the WWYD relates to another staff member (call her X) who we were also friendly with. X & Y have got closer over the past few years and get together regularly. During covid X wfh and had difficulties with IT aspects, also during this period she tripped at home and broke bones, this affected her badly mentally and as her snr at work we offered support from a MH pov and also to help sanctioned a continued full pay for 3 months beyond the 2 weeks contract entitlement...if you've got this far thanks for sticking with me! I had plans to leave and whilst working my notice X handed her notice in. This has all happened over the last 2 years, but during this time we would all meet occasionally with Y & X and the other couple. On a colleagues retirement party X had a few to drink and told me she felt resentment toward me regarding her final period at work, she felt I was not her friend. She text me the same night to say she was sorry, drink had got the better of her and could we still be friends...this is 12 months ago. I text back to say of course and that I had never not considered her a friend. Further 12 months of Socialising, all together on occassion with no issues. Now between Xmas & NY we were invited to Y's for food & drink, we accepted and were looking forward to seeing everyone, then text from Y to say X not happy we were coming and has made it clear to Y and other couple that she wants no further social connection with me! It's put Y and other couple in a very awkward position and made me feel like shit. We backed off from the invite to save the awkward situ and Y and other couple say how sorry they are, but they still went ahead with X. So my question is what would you do? X has not come to me directly but Y has said she's made it 'very clear' she wants nothing more to do with me? I'm very hurt, felt I'd gone above & beyond with the work situ. Y & other couple are childhood dear friends and I hate that they are almost being made to 'choose' between me and X it seems unfair. Should I message X? WWYD? Help please?
