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orchid25 Mon 01-Jan-24 22:19:10

Hi there,
Last christmas my sister-in-law turned up at my mother-in-law's house after my father-in-law's passing.
Backstory: MIL and FIL fell out over 30 years ago which resulted in FIL banning SIL from house. As he's recently died, SIL has come back in a group setting (ie. me, husband, BIL, and children). I feel awkward as I've actually only been in her company about 8 times in nearly 30 years. Came into the room very huffy and never spoke to me and my husband. She told her daughter on her wedding day 'why are you marrying into this family for?'. Told my MIL that she is not fit to babysit her granddaughter. This is not my issue - however given the context of her outbursts suddenly she is making a home visit when we turn up after a disappearance of 20 years at in-laws home. I'd like some advice about how to handle her because we are not personal friends; she had used my london flat like a hotel and then made sure that we weren't invited us to niece's wedding. Weirdest thing was that BIL showed divorce papers to my husband and she is staying at a different house with no wedding ring on.

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Sago Tue 09-Jan-24 10:13:24

Madgran77 Thank you for having the tenacity to break this down but I’m sorry, I still don’t have the will to work it all out!

I never know if these posts are fake or not, I’m only in two minds because we met someone for the first time recently, shook hands and the got a convoluted story about two houses in France, home schooling, 11 plus and a property about to complete in Yorkshire, a Kazakh wife and Brexit!

My husband and myself were completely baffled and wondered why a stranger would ever want to give away so much information!

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Callistemon21 Tue 09-Jan-24 11:09:29

Greta

A language query from me: a sister-in-law is not necessarily the sister of your husband, is she? Could she not be the wife of your husband's brother?

What would you call your child's in-laws, ie their spouse's parents, siblings?

It always puzzles me!

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Greta Tue 09-Jan-24 11:51:23

Callistemon21, I just use their Christian names and then explain the relationship if necessary.
What did surprise me was all the different names given to grandparents since 'grandmother' and 'grandfather'
refer to maternal and paternal grandparents.

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Callistemon21 Tue 09-Jan-24 12:10:37

Greta

Callistemon21, I just use their Christian names and then explain the relationship if necessary.
What did surprise me was all the different names given to grandparents since 'grandmother' and 'grandfather'
refer to maternal and paternal grandparents.

So do we, I just meant if referring to them.

DC's in-laws, DGC's other grandparents?
The out-laws? 😁

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