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Who is still attracted to their partner after a long marriage?

(75 Posts)
Keepgoing Wed 21-Feb-24 15:34:08

New to Gransnet. I don't feel like a 'gran' even though I am! I still feel 20, just in a 57 year old body ha ha. I have been married for over 30 years to a wonderful, kind man. He's never really blown my socks off but always been my rock. Sometimes I find myself wishing for that desire and not see him as a roomate. Do other women, who have been married for a long time, settle into this type of relationship or are some of you out there who still fancy their other half even after years and years of marriage and heading to their 60s or 70s, etc?

nanna8 Mon 25-Mar-24 10:35:27

I used to like Warren Beatty. To look at, not so much his personality, thinking of ‘You’re so Vain’

Lovetopaint037 Mon 25-Mar-24 10:56:13

Nearly 64 years of marriage and I love him to bits.

Grammaretto Mon 25-Mar-24 11:12:26

Aw Lovetopaint
That's very nice. ❤️
I miss DH every day although he could annoy me!

grannyaschjd22 Mon 25-Mar-24 11:29:49

I feel the same as you! been married for 50 years and been together for 65! I love him to bits but some days i wish i had a younger hotter man in my life. Don’t get me wrong he’s got the body of a 20 year old some days but on days i want a bit of action he just doesn’t appeal to me.
Help pls what should i do??!

Grannynannywanny Mon 25-Mar-24 12:35:11

Today 11:29 grannyaschjd22

I feel the same as you! been married for 50 years and been together for 65! I love him to bits but some days i wish i had a younger hotter man in my life. Don’t get me wrong he’s got the body of a 20 year old some days but on days i want a bit of action he just doesn’t appeal to me.
Help pls what should i do??!

🤔 You’ve been together 65 years so guessing you’re in the 80+ age group then? You’d like your partner to be “hotter” Have you tried an electric blanket ??

Delia22 Mon 25-Mar-24 12:36:01

grannyaschjd22

I feel the same as you! been married for 50 years and been together for 65! I love him to bits but some days i wish i had a younger hotter man in my life. Don’t get me wrong he’s got the body of a 20 year old some days but on days i want a bit of action he just doesn’t appeal to me.
Help pls what should i do??!

WOW!!😳 The body of a 20 year old ! At the age of 70+!!Or am I missing something??

petra Mon 25-Mar-24 12:45:25

Delia22

grannyaschjd22

I feel the same as you! been married for 50 years and been together for 65! I love him to bits but some days i wish i had a younger hotter man in my life. Don’t get me wrong he’s got the body of a 20 year old some days but on days i want a bit of action he just doesn’t appeal to me.
Help pls what should i do??!

WOW!!😳 The body of a 20 year old ! At the age of 70+!!Or am I missing something??

I think someone needs to go to SpecSavers 🤦🏼‍♀️

DamaskRose Mon 25-Mar-24 12:45:34

I’m so naive, it never occurred to me that this would not be genuine! 🤦🏼‍♀️ Having been alerted to the fact I think I’ll wait to see if OP comes back!

sharon103 Mon 25-Mar-24 12:51:43

Grandmaofone

Marydoll

I am more interested in those tall, handsome actors in the Turkish dramas I watch! wink
Psst, don't tell DH. wink

Bali Bey !?! (Burak Ozcivit is the Turkish actor) total yum!

I've just had to Google Burak Ozcivit.
Ooo yeah he is quite nice smile

Marydoll Mon 25-Mar-24 13:21:25

A bit too pretty for me, sharon.🤣

pably15 Mon 25-Mar-24 13:32:21

I love my old O H , been maried for 56 years, and woudn't swap him for all the tea in china..

sharon103 Mon 25-Mar-24 13:36:51

Marydoll

A bit too pretty for me, sharon.🤣

Alright, I'll have him then grin

Marydoll Mon 25-Mar-24 13:43:32

sharon103

Marydoll

A bit too pretty for me, sharon.🤣

Alright, I'll have him then grin

You can have him. Don't say I am not generous! Plenty more fish in the sea. 🤣

Marydoll Mon 25-Mar-24 13:50:19

Sharon, I am not sharing him.🤣

Callistemon21 Mon 25-Mar-24 16:16:47

Delia22

grannyaschjd22

I feel the same as you! been married for 50 years and been together for 65! I love him to bits but some days i wish i had a younger hotter man in my life. Don’t get me wrong he’s got the body of a 20 year old some days but on days i want a bit of action he just doesn’t appeal to me.
Help pls what should i do??!

WOW!!😳 The body of a 20 year old ! At the age of 70+!!Or am I missing something??

Yes, you are Delila!

They've been together for 65 years so, presuming they were teenage sweethearts, they must be 80+

And still he has the body of a 20 year old 😂

Germanshepherdsmum Mon 25-Mar-24 16:18:52

Should have gone to Specsavers?

Marydoll Mon 25-Mar-24 16:26:06

Germanshepherdsmum

Should have gone to Specsavers?

Rose tinted spectacles.

Jaxjacky Mon 25-Mar-24 16:44:41

Well the OP does have an insight on some more mature ladies interested in much younger Turkish actors if nothing else.

Delia22 Mon 25-Mar-24 16:56:50

I really MUST brush up on my maths.Of course 20something plus 65years is 85+ Oh,that's a bigger WOW!!! then! The body of a 20 year old.I am SO jealous.DH .....nothing like he was at 20! But then again neither am I!!!😂

Callistemon21 Mon 25-Mar-24 17:07:35

Delia22

I really MUST brush up on my maths.Of course 20something plus 65years is 85+ Oh,that's a bigger WOW!!! then! The body of a 20 year old.I am SO jealous.DH .....nothing like he was at 20! But then again neither am I!!!😂

I didn't know DH when he was 20 but, from photographs, he looked as if he was more skinny than Adonis
(Don't tell him I said that)

Marydoll Mon 25-Mar-24 17:11:56

Jaxjacky

Well the OP does have an insight on some more mature ladies interested in much younger Turkish actors if nothing else.

All tongue in cheek. I never claimed to be mature. 🤭
DH finds it hilarious.
I am indeed a hussy.
My grand escape, when life becomes problematic and overwhelming and I am confined to barracks, due to health issues.. 😉

kittylester Mon 25-Mar-24 19:20:14

I still find DH hugely attractive when he wears the leather shorts and a feather boa.

seadragon Mon 25-Mar-24 20:51:07

Whatcha think?

flappergirl Mon 25-Mar-24 21:36:17

You make a lovely couple seadragon.