Rude Daughter

The situation with your niece, is it possible she is concerned for you and not expressing it well?

Sometimes, people we love are harder to get along with, they aren't the people we hoped they would be... We don't have the relationship we wanted... But that doesn't always mean we aren't loved

What you need to ask yourself is, if she is coming from a bad place. If she is trying to hurt you. If you are unsure of that answer, then you need to have a conversation with her, tell her you are hurt by this... Just this scenario, don't make it an "you always do xyz" thing because that would feel like an attack. See what she says...

Primrose53

rafichagran

linfreed You have written about this before, and it seems things have got no better. You really need to stop being so available.
Why do people always say when someone is rude and demanding they may be autistic,no they are mostly just rude and selfish. I find labelling people for bad manners, rudeness, and lack of thought just wrong. Look at the estranged thread, do all the Grandparents who are estranged have autistic adult children?

Because they may well be and nobody has picked up on it before!

Look at Chris Packham, highly intelligent but prefers the company of his dogs to humans because he finds it really difficult to communicate with them and “guess” what they are thinking.

Lots of people say he is very stand offish and distant and also very direct but they are classic signs of autism which of course, we know he has.

I have a close family member who is on the Autistic spectrum and she is very much like the OPs daughter.

So yes a lot of us do have ACs or grandchildren that are Autistic or on the spectrum.

Good post, eazybee.

rafichagran

linfreed You have written about this before, and it seems things have got no better. You really need to stop being so available.
Why do people always say when someone is rude and demanding they may be autistic,no they are mostly just rude and selfish. I find labelling people for bad manners, rudeness, and lack of thought just wrong. Look at the estranged thread, do all the Grandparents who are estranged have autistic adult children?

Well said rafichagran. That's just what I think.

One of my daughters is very difficult and quite rude and unkind to me and her sister. If I have ever tried to discuss this and how hurt I feel I am always in the wrong, my fault so I just keep quiet now. I am always there for her and love her very much but stay as she wants at an arms length away. Just do what you need to do to help your niece and keep quiet. What a very sad situation for your niece. Unfortunately people never change and it is accepting situations we cannot change and enjoying the company of those who are kind and want to spend time with us. I am rarely asked to do anything for her but if I am it sounds like she is doing me a massive favour by asking me rather than me helping her.