Returning home after surgery

😁 Well the OP hasn’t come back. I hope her homecoming goes well but I suspect she thought we would all agree with her.

ginny

I think we are all talking to ourselves.

I think you are right... 🤣

I suppose I'm actually talking to you now though... so maybe not!

I live in a maisonette. No accommodation downstairs so have no choice but to climb the stairs to reach our living space. Twisty turny stairs. Really struggling.
I do hope you manage in your recovery.

I think we are all talking to ourselves.

In my experience as both a physiotherapist and a patient you will not be discharged until you are safe on stairs.
Good luck

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You won’t be discharged until you can do stairs. I had a hip replacement on my ‘good’ leg ( my other one is partly paralysed) and I had lots of coaching on stairs before returning home. It’s good to tackle them asap. A bed downstairs is definitely not advisable . Your husband most likely wants you back to normal. My OH encourages me to be as active as possible and to do things I’ve been told that aren’t feasible with my degree of ‘injury’. I think your chap is being cruel to be kind. Don’t be hurt. Embrace the challenge.

Lots of good advice, you'll be shown all about stairs, and assessed re frame, crutches or walking sticks. As someone said, there's an ABC routines going up (Able, Bad, Crutch) and CBA coming down. DO ALL the exercises they tell you, AND THEN some more!!

Re Hubby and the upstairs downstairs thing, I think he's trying to make sure you DO use those stairs, no hiding on the ground floor for weeks. As someone shrewdly said, he could come up stairs behind you, and descend in front, so a team effort?!

After surgery.
1. Friend was told by the physio that he couldn't go home till the physios had looked his home,-----the following week. despite being discharged by the surgeon.
2 cousin had to wait from being discharged at 10.30am till she got her meds at 5pm
3 OH was discharged at 11am Wednesday and arrived home at midnight Thursday as he had to wait for meds.

Hope your knee op and recovery go well Scaredy-cat.

I think your husband will be more of a problem than your operated knee.
I have recently had two new knees six months apart. I was in hospital for two nights with both and came home with a lot of equipment. I had a toilet seat frame, perching stool, bath seat, shoe horn, shower leg protector, shower seat and of course crutches. All this equipment was returned as it became redundant. I live alone in a house with a lot of stairs and a turn halfway. I was slow going up and down but that was o.k. and it was part of my therapy. My daughter stayed the first night but otherwise I managed and it wasn’t too tricky. Being on your own you learn to be inventive generally and that helped.

4allweknow

Inless ypu can give assurace you do not to climb stairs for sleeping, toileting very much doubt you will be discharged. Physio will assess you on use of stairs.

These days I doubt they would keep anyone in if they were fit in other ways ,
Everyone I know has climbed stairs from the first day home. As long as you have a downstairs toilet , it is only once a day.

Inless ypu can give assurace you do not to climb stairs for sleeping, toileting very much doubt you will be discharged. Physio will assess you on use of stairs.

NotSpaghetti

I don't know why so many are assuming the husband is mean or selfish?

Surely using the stairs is a good thing to do post surgery.

Scaredycat may just be scared... Or the sort of person that needs some pushing??
We don't know anything about the husband's reasons really.

This. It could well be that the husband is unsure about his capability now that he is older. Perhaps he is very worried about damaging himself, when he will obviously be needed to help look after the OP

You are not usually discharged until you can do stairs. It shouldn’t be an issue.🙂

Why do you keep uncaring husband? Get rid of him.

I don’t think the OP said that her husband didn’t want to do anything for her , just didn’t want to move the bed.
To be honest , having had both knees replaced and knowing lots of other people who have, none of them have needed a bed bought downstairs.
There may be some particular reason why OP needs this but she ha come back to tell us.

I had a TKR last year. Not allowed home until I could go up and down stairs. It's not as difficult as you think it's going to be, especially if you have a hand rail both sides. I didn't use crutches, just a walking frame (one upstairs, one down, supplied by the hospital Occupational Therapist. Fairly quickly onto 2 sticks, then one. They also supplied a frame for each toilet to help lower oneself gracefully

We often stay with Premier Inns. I can go straight from the car to the disabled room on my mobility scooter (I hate lifts).

I’d be hurt by the perceived lack of concern too, (I’ve never had a knee op so can’t say how you would feel after your operation) what I would do before my surgery is bring down bedding for use on a settee until you feel more confident about using the stairs (I’m hoping that you have a downstairs toilet), which I’m hoping your husband will shadow you up and down the stairs in case you struggle

If you are having a knee or hip operation , you won’t be discharged until you can climb stairs. Provided you have a downstairs loo you only have to do the stairs once a day,

Hosp physio will ensure you can manage stairs with your crutches before you leave so don’t worry about that.
Your husband is being a pig (sorry)…
When home I would advise going up and downstairs because I’ve had two TKRs and I still have trouble going downstairs because it was straight as Covid hit literally and my physio was on the phone, etc…although ALL exercises done.
Good luck ice ice ice and take your pain relief before you’re doing your exercises. Look after yourself.

Some men are hopeless. My friend’s partner pretty much left her to it when she had a TKR the other year. He cleared off down to his shed/workshop every day and she would often cry as she felt really low as she couldn’t drive or go anywhere for weeks.

I had covid then shingles recently and had a few days in bed but still got up to make the evening meal! When I was heavily pregnant with twins I commented that I could hardly reach the sink. My husband said “all you need to do is change the position of your feet.” He honestly thought he was being helpful. 😱😝😱😝

Politely ask him what he would like you to do for him when he needs,new hip,new knee etc. We all get older & things happen to people who think they are immune—— he may fall off a ladder——-people are not kept in hospital as long as they used to be,best to be prepared,or just sit on the bottom step & tell him he will have to carry you,sorry a bit tongue in cheek,good luck with your surgery.

This is at Premiere Inn.

My husband is disabled. We always book an accessible room with a wet room and they raise the bed for us with “elephant” feet.