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Wiwi Tue 23-Apr-24 15:28:26

I was married for 24 years. My husband died at the age of 46 it was heart breaking. I’ve been alone since then. I miss having someone to converse with, going out with, cuddling with and many other things we use to do. I have not found anyone to share my life with again well I haven’t been looking. I just miss being loved being told honey I’m home , honey do you need anything, etc. I went through cancer treatments all myself wishing to have some one there but that’s life. Sometimes you just want to talk share your feelings call when you’ve had a hard day at work but it’s not the same. I work hard but my life is feeling a big void and not spiritually but I miss that human touch that hug when I’m stressed or feeling sad. It’s hard. I’m not ugly but not beautiful, I have xtra pounds on me my hair is thin but I have a lot of love to give. Maybe one day in the future before it’s too late I can have love in my life once again.

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keepingquiet Tue 23-Apr-24 16:06:43

I am sorry for the loss of your husband, but those memories you made together can never be taken away.

I too miss having that other person, my 'better' half but I gave up looking some time ago.

Sending you virtual hugs and hopes that you do find that person one day.

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Thoro Tue 23-Apr-24 17:44:41

I lost my first husband when I was 48. I hated being alone then so I looked for another partner (used the internet even way back then in the early 2000's)
I found someone and had another 20 years before he succumbed to dementia and died in January this year.
I've had major health problems (dissected aorta and open heart surgery) and although it would be lovely to have someone to look after me this time I am quite happy to live on my own.
I would at least start looking for another partner- it's not easy but in my case it did work out.

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Delia22 Tue 23-Apr-24 17:52:22

You don't say how old you are WiWi, or how long you have been on your own. Well done on having cancer treatment,supporting yourself! Could you join any clubs?Or do a bit of volunteering? I sincerely hope you do find your male companion in the not too distant future. ❤

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fancythat Tue 23-Apr-24 17:53:41

You mention you have not been looking.
Sounds like you are at the point of wanting to?

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Katie59 Tue 23-Apr-24 18:12:33

I can understand a widow not finding it easy to move on if you have had a long happy marriage, all you can do is judge your feelings. If a new man feels right you will know, but don’t try to compare him with your husband and be careful not to refer to him too often.

A divorcee like myself had no problems deciding because the relationship had gone sour

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