Blatant showing off starting to get really tiresome/distasteful

MealDealDreamz

My relative has retired and has spent the last six months travelling regularly abroad and has had about 6 really quite extravagant and luxurious trips. They regularly post on social media about their travels but the luxury is always so overstated it is starting to grate and seem quite distasteful. Pictures of huge plates of seafood and champagne, 'luxury' accommodation with 'private' saunas and 'exclusive' concerts and 'feeling spoilt/blessed'. It all seems a bit in your face and distasteful, given the fact that she knows most of her family are not very well off and her own kids are struggling to manage financially. I'm happy for people to have treats and enjoy holidays but the constant bombardment and in your face images and videos is so excessive. Do they have no idea how they come across?

My family post similar things, some of us are not so well off ither. You know what,I love seeing these posts, family enjoying themselves, my friends do the same, .yes I wish I could do it, pockets won't let me,but I enjoying seeing them do it. Good on them.
Is poster wee bit jealous?

Social media has really brought out the need some people have for attention. If everyone just ignores them, they will shut up and go away.

It's their life. They are entitled to post about it. Readers can think what they like about other people's lives.
Nobody is forcing anybody to read about it.

Rowantree, I like your thoughtful comment and agree with it.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Rowantree

Well, I get it.
It's a bit unkind to accuse the OP of jealousy. It's very complicated, the reaction. Glückschmerz. It means pain in another's happiness but it's a human emotion. If you feel low, inadequate or whatever, it feels challenging to see what appears to be bragging posts from people whose lives are apparently swimmingly wonderful. It can make you feel like a failure in comparison. It's a gutteral reaction and not something you can control. And no one likes feeling like that. What is needed is reassurance that you're ok, you're not a failure and you're ok as you are. So please - some compassion for the OP, not censure or ridicule or judgement.

Agreed. That’s what I was getting at upthread. People paint the best picture of their lives on SM, and if someone feels they don’t measure up it can hurt.

I have a friend who mostly is nice and kind but her H is a bit show off and boastful.
I don’t see him much but occasionally his wife will follow his ways.
They boasted some time ago that they had bought a book featuring the top 100 hotels in the world to check how many they had stayed at.

I love FB - I now connect with my childhood friends, who are in all corners of the world. When I talk to them it’s like they are next door. Seeing their families, knowing what they are doing, is just brilliant . Maybe, I’m nosey. So be it.

I also mostly don’t mind seeing family and friends posts on Facebook. I don’t think most people come across as bragging. I do have one to two people who post obsessively about day to day life which is usually very boring. Another is a Vegan who posts every day things about her lifestyle, my nephew posts pictures of cars all the time, a friend has 26 grandchildren and great grandchildren and she posts dozens of photos a week. I don’t see any of it as bragging,
One thing that really annoys me though is a lady who has joined a group of us that go out for coffees or lunches always takes photos of us to post on her social media. I have told her a number of times I don’t want her to post pictures of me but she still does. Last time she got her phone out to take pictures I got up and left the table. I just think it incredibly rude.

Well, I get it.
It's a bit unkind to accuse the OP of jealousy. It's very complicated, the reaction. Glückschmerz. It means pain in another's happiness but it's a human emotion. If you feel low, inadequate or whatever, it feels challenging to see what appears to be bragging posts from people whose lives are apparently swimmingly wonderful. It can make you feel like a failure in comparison. It's a gutteral reaction and not something you can control. And no one likes feeling like that. What is needed is reassurance that you're ok, you're not a failure and you're ok as you are. So please - some compassion for the OP, not censure or ridicule or judgement.

Esmay who says she 'has to prove herself'? That's only what the OP thinks.
In fact her comments say more about her.

Good luck to them! I (mostly!) enjoy seeing other peoples pictures. We have family and friends all over the world and fb is a great way of keeping in touch.

While i agree that there are times when other peoples holiday/baby/party snaps get tiresome, at least on fb you can give a quick like and move on, rather than sit on their sofa for hours whilst getting a running commentary on each picture

I am with @Bluebelle, i belong to a few groups that I have learnt so much from.

If the OP's relatives are feeling 'spoilt/blessed', they don't, to me, immediately sound boastful, rather they are loving every minute and realise how fortunate they are to be doing what they are doing.

Either completely ignore Mrs Boastie or tell her what you really think .

It's incredibly sad that she has to prove herself when her family are suffering .

Recently , one of my oldest friends has started working for a wealthy couple and she is in total awe of them .
I hear about their fabulous house , cars , clothes and holidays .
From her comments , I'm not sure that their money is that honestly earned , as she's so ambiguous about their profession(s) .

One thing : despite needing a car to pick up their daughters from school and ballet they didn't offer any financial help when her car was stolen !

So it's all swank and she's still falling for it !

Cossy exactly
Rafiagran no one is twisting your arm
I go on WhatsApp too and some people I get photos from are on WhatsApp and not FB but that doesn’t stop me liking both
I prefer FB as it’s so wide and so many different interesting groups to join in, whatever subject you can think of and I like all the local news even down to the weather

I respect that some people like Facebook. I know about the things Bluebelle has written, it's just that I do not like it and do not wish to engage in it.
That said I love whattsapp and I enjoy the photos my daughter and Grandson sends me.

It all seems a bit in your face and distasteful, given the fact that she knows most of her family are not very well off and her own kids are struggling to manage financially

That is between them and their mother and is really none of your business.

Perhaps she won the Lottery.

Don't look if it upsets you.

I'm in all sorts of interesting groups on Facebook. Posts and info from them make up the majority of my Facebook feed. If friends or family are on holiday they might post a few pics instead of sending postcards I suppose. I'm glad to hear they're having a good time and/or are in an interesting place.

People boast on and off social media. If this person were your 'real' life friend it would be much worse. As it is you can block her posts without unfriending her. I've done this with several people. I suspect others have done it with me too!

We used to have a neighbour whose only conversation was boasting - he had just 'treated' himself to a new £8,000 watch for his birthday, had a guitar custom made even though he already had several even better guitars, just had a new camper van fitted out specially in a factory somewhere. I never knew what to say and used to start to panic I wouldn't get away from him and would have to listen to more and more boasts about stuff he had. He was basically a nice enough man but bored on about stuff he had spent money on.

BlueBelle

If it’s not for you it’s not for you I like FB I keep in touch with family and friends as much or as little as I want
No one holds you down and makes you see things
If someone annoys you you can block them
The people who say thank goodness I m not on it have probably never seen the interesting things, the local sites, the recommendations, the historical stuff, the nature groups or help someone out if asking or joined in a clean up or helped look for someone or something lost or joined a walk or, or, or.

I love a bit of FB! I’m in groups that make me laugh, some groups that help with some conditions I have, I keep in touch with people I rarely get to see in person and sometimes I learn things! I’m a bit nosey so I don’t mind seeing photos of people’s trips etc!

I’ll be honest, I’d love that life 😂😂😂😂😂

I just don't get why anyone posts anything about what they are doing. Who cares? If you are friends in real life, rather than online, you would know anyway. I would not be interested in seeing a photo of anyone's meal for example.

Do I detect a touch of the green eye?
It certainly reads like it.

If it’s not for you it’s not for you I like FB I keep in touch with family and friends as much or as little as I want
No one holds you down and makes you see things
If someone annoys you you can block them
The people who say thank goodness I m not on it have probably never seen the interesting things, the local sites, the recommendations, the historical stuff, the nature groups or help someone out if asking or joined in a clean up or helped look for someone or something lost or joined a walk or, or, or.