DIL doesn’t trust me. Postpartum in play here.

Why on earth would you shout at an anxious new mother?

you need help. Seriously.

The new mother is lucky that her own mother and stepmother are decent people.

What a idiotic unfeeling thing to do. Make you feel better did it.

Exactly. I had bad post natal depression and can’t imagine someone yelling at me then. She needs care and sympathy. If I were her I wouldn’t be seeing you again until I was better again. If ever. You sound thoroughly devoid of understanding.

Well seems you got what you had coming there didn’t you? Don’t be surprised when the new rule is you don’t see her child (not your grandbaby ) again soon.

You were out of line. Far out of line. A new mother, especially one dealing with anxiety and post natal issues needs love and understanding- not you

I hope this isn't for real.

What on earth were you thinking? It's not about your feelings and how her anxiety is ' hurting ' ever one !!!!!!
Your DIL needs your support and understanding. I have no experience of post natel depression, but I do know how devastating it is for a new mother. For goodness sake either show her you care , deal with the change of rules or better still keep away from her while she recovers and hope she invites you back to see your GC when she is feeling better,- I wouldn't hold your breath though.

Anxious or not, postpartum or not, I would not tolerate being yelled at. She was right, it was your that behaviour was out of line.

Alrighty then. I guess we’re supposed to tip toe around mental illness including ppd when she refuses to get on meds in the mean time her anxiety is destroying the family.

This cannot be true

Sounds like you destroying the family Omag however I think this is so bizarre it must be made up to get a reaction

OMAG Your dil is ill. She is not thinking straight. Patience and understanding is needed. Leave her alone and let people more understanding and helpful than you look after her.
I know two wrongs don't make a right but if a MIL done that to my daughter, I would be very angry and I would definatly call her out on it.

Saying the above, I am uncertain this is true.

Omag

Alrighty then. I guess we’re supposed to tip toe around mental illness including ppd when she refuses to get on meds in the mean time her anxiety is destroying the family.

it sounds more like you are hell bent on destroying the family.. how insensitive and uncompassionate can you be..

I don't think this is a real post..

trip trap

Omag

Alrighty then. I guess we’re supposed to tip toe around mental illness including ppd when she refuses to get on meds in the mean time her anxiety is destroying the family.

What an unfeeling comment.You sound like my mother.
I had serious PND, exacerbated by high does of oral steroids.
My own mother's solution was to slap me and tell me to pull myself together. That really helped!
Your poor DIL.

"School's out for summer............"

Germanshepherdsmum

Exactly. I had bad post natal depression and can’t imagine someone yelling at me then. She needs care and sympathy. If I were her I wouldn’t be seeing you again until I was better again. If ever. You sound thoroughly devoid of understanding.

This ^^ If ever.

I'd never see you again...

If this is real (I have some doubts), the overwhelming reaction on this thread is that you are in the wrong. However, rather than accept that, you double down and reaffirm your rather nasty view. And you think your Dil is the problem? Hmm.

What a terrible thing to do. It serves you right if she bans you from seeing them again.

I didn’t recognise the need for medication either. Thank heavens my mother did and dragged me to the doctor. You are the last person your daughter in law needs in her life. This is not about you. It’s about her, her baby (which is not your grand baby) and her husband. Just stay away until you are able to show some understanding and compassion.

Even if it is a goady post, it’s still sick 😡

Smileless2012

I hope this isn't for real.

I'm quite, quite sure this is well and truly real Smileless

There are some monstrous mothers-in-law out there, most seem to find Gransnet to complain about their poor daughters-in-law.

OP, don't be surprised if you are cut off from your family.