DIL doesn’t trust me. Postpartum in play here.

My DD had a baby 3 months ago and had developed an anxiety, about 5 days after the birth.
Luckily it was diagnosed as PTSD after a difficult birth, firstly by her Midwife then her Heath Visitor who appointed a MH support worker to visit her at home.
They jumped into action quickly and I'm pleased to say she almost back to her normal self. I cannot fault the District team or GP.

I have spent a lot of time with her, letting her talk and her DH has been amazing.
As a family we have supported her, giving her time. Fortunately she didn't need to go on medication, but attended supportive groups with other new mums who were struggling as this is a known issue. If she had been recommended to go onto Medication she would have done it.

This was her second baby so she knew what was involved with a new baby , so not out of her depth.

I cannot imagine anyone shouting at her, what an insensitive thing to do.
This should be a happy time with a new baby for all the family.
You have now damaged that.

Well if you’re a real grandmother Omag you ve had a real flea in your ear on here and hope you ve learnt something
However if it’s a troll and it could well, let’s wish you good bye

New poster from across The Pond.
I expect she's mad at us for pointing out her out of line behavior

Reported.

The only person destroying the family is you.

And if your DIL is mentally ill, she isn't the only one. No sane, rational adult yells as a postpartum mother.

Please do your DIL, the baby, and your son a favor by staying away. You aren't helping. She clearly doesn't want whatever version of "help" you can offer.

The best thing is for you is to find a hobby and leave their family alone.

Omag

Hello
I yelled at my DIL recently over not understanding her changing the rules every time I see my new grand baby. She has extreme anxiety from post partum depression. Her mother and step mother tip toe around her as to not upset her. So my DIL is mad at me for pointing out her out of line behavior. Her anxiety is hurting everyone

Wrong on every possible level.
You don’t yell at people suffering from PND,
Depression is not “out of line behaviour”
Avoiding exacerbating extreme anxiety is the very least one can do.
My sympathies are entirely with DIL and her family and I, personally, would have no hesitation in showing OP the door.

Good job you weren't my mother-in-law. I would have shouted back at you twice as loud to back off and mind your own business. Then you really would have had something to moan about. Be grateful for what you have and support your DIL and DS in their new life.

Callistemon213

Smileless2012

I hope this isn't for real.

I'm quite, quite sure this is well and truly real Smileless

There are some monstrous mothers-in-law out there, most seem to find Gransnet to complain about their poor daughters-in-law.

OP, don't be surprised if you are cut off from your family.

I quite agree, Calli, people are cut off/estranged for bad behaviour around new mum/ baby often. Unreasonable expectations OP.

I have probably ‘yelled’ at my children when they were little and going too close to the fire or the hob, or putting their little fingers in the electric sockets etc etc. But NEVER at either of my 2 ds.I.l. My sons would ban me from their homes, for life.

I don't think that it is helpful to see the new arrival as " my grandbaby ". The child is the infant of a son or daughter. The grandparents are one removed and it's important to be mindful of that.

I am torn, this OP's complete lack of sympathy sounds too contrived to be true, but on the other hand, there are women like this out there.

The other explanation is that the OP actually has severe mental problems herself, either structural or acquired and she is desperately in need of help.

Another blame the dil from the US. So many of these recently. I can't believe this one.

I'm curious, how can we tell the posts are from the US? I didn't see that anywhere in the OP. I surely hope the assumption isn't based on the insinuation that such vile behaviour as displayed by this OP couldn't possible be done by someone from the UK. Surely everyone is capable of dispelling that notion by using the search bar on Mumsnet

Feverjo the way these posts are worded…. in this particular one Alrighty then is not a term used in UK I don’t think
Often the time of posting they are often posted in the night time when most of us are snoring and seen after waking in the morning
I m sure it’s nothing to do with your concerns at all, there are some great posters from all over
I m not sure what you mean about a search bar on mumsnet I for one don’t go on Mumsnet

Feverjo - sometimes posts are assumed to be from the US because of the language used. "Yelled" rather than "shouted" "Grandbaby" and "mad at me" rather than "annoyed" or "cross". There's a tone in some posts that sounds American but it may be a wrong assumption. Time of posting is another clue.

Crossed posts with Bluebelle!

Feverjo

I'm curious, how can we tell the posts are from the US? I didn't see that anywhere in the OP. I surely hope the assumption isn't based on the insinuation that such vile behaviour as displayed by this OP couldn't possible be done by someone from the UK. Surely everyone is capable of dispelling that notion by using the search bar on Mumsnet

Spelling and usage of language are generally indicators.

We do get a lot of these angst-filled threads which tend to come from the USA.

Do they not have helpful forums for older people there I wonder?

Alrighty then.
Grand baby
Out of line
Behavior

is this a reversal ?

Callistemon213

Feverjo

I'm curious, how can we tell the posts are from the US? I didn't see that anywhere in the OP. I surely hope the assumption isn't based on the insinuation that such vile behaviour as displayed by this OP couldn't possible be done by someone from the UK. Surely everyone is capable of dispelling that notion by using the search bar on Mumsnet

Spelling and usage of language are generally indicators.

We do get a lot of these angst-filled threads which tend to come from the USA.

Do they not have helpful forums for older people there I wonder?

Does it really matter? The internet isn't a physical place. everyone everywhere has access, hence the term "world wide web". The entire 'Estrangement' forum is angst-filled, as are countless threads on Mumsnet.

I'm amazed they find little old us.