My Ex

As he is your EX - mind your own business.

I have severe ADD, I certainly require no other person to manage me. I find the notion that those with ADD/ADHD need "help" or that they can't comprehend for themselves -- insulting.

I presume it is adults he is looking at and not children. If the latter it would need reporting to the police and yes your DD would need to know.
If it is Adults and non violent I would probably make him aware that you have seen it but say it's up to him what he is doing in his private space as long as it doesn't impact on the rest of the family.
It's all down to degrees really the type that was seen years ago on the pay to view channels seems mild these days. Just be glad you are no longer married.

What is there to suggest the ex is addicted to looking at porn?
Presumably he thinks (rightly) that what he does is his own business, and certainly nothing to do with his ex, or his daughter.

So, you don’t really know for sure, only that he may be addicted to an online pornography site. How have you come to this conclusion, what makes you think it might be? How have you discovered this? Unsavoury as it is to many, if true, it’s not really your business as you are his ex. You could be completely wide of the mark, too, so saying something could damage the cordial relationship you have at present, plus damage your relationship with your daughter, and hers with her father. I would advise caution, before opening this can of worms.

(As &Granny62* says, if it’s child pornography, that’s quite different and would need reporting, but again, you need to be absolutely certain of your facts first).

You only suspect OP you do not know. Keep quiet. Posters have asked how you found out, please could you answer this, were you being nosey by any chance?
Why are you so invested in your EX husband?

I think Melinda is invested in her ex husband because he is the father of their daughter! Melinda you need to be sure if your facts , is he watching child pornography ? If so you have every right to interfere especially as your DD is expecting a child. It seems you have a reasonable relationship with your ex and that makes it more complicated. If you never saw him this would be a different situation.
I understand why people are saying this is one of your business however......... ? Not sure that if in your situation I would be able to butt out. Yes butt out if he was miles away and I never saw him , but as this is not the case I am not sure which course of a action I would take! Think the first step would be to have the facts straight .

Nobody has hinted, even, that it is child porn!!!

Off topic....but the term 'child pornography' shouldn't be used .....several other phrases you can choose from .....we use child sexual abuse material.....in my place of work .....

None of those terms should be used about this person, regardless.
It has no bearing at all in his daughter's relationship with him, and is his own business.

I wouldnt let anyone addicted to porn look after my child, people have different boundaries. Porn use and particularly excessive use is not harmless. In addition the stories of those who have escaped from the porn industry are horrific. It is also proving to be anything but harmless for young people.

Nobody knows if it is excessive use.
Nobody knows this man will be looking after a child, and certainly nobody knows the content of his viewing.

None of your business.

Louisa, does 't matter which term is used, although I respect the fact that a different term is used in professional environment - however it is described, it amounts to the same.
None of us know whether or not he is accessing material that involves children. What I do know is if this were my ex and I saw him regularly in a family setting I would consider my business!! and would do all I could to determine what he was watching. I am astounded at the attitude that says keep out of his busines - off the scene, living miles away -nothing to go with me! On the
' doorstep ' seeing out daughter and future GC - that's a completely different story.

So if he had a woman friend, would people think they needed to know every detail of their sex life, in case it was unsavoury in some way?

Shelflife

Louisa, does 't matter which term is used, although I respect the fact that a different term is used in professional environment - however it is described, it amounts to the same.
None of us know whether or not he is accessing material that involves children. What I do know is if this were my ex and I saw him regularly in a family setting I would consider my business!! and would do all I could to determine what he was watching. I am astounded at the attitude that says keep out of his busines - off the scene, living miles away -nothing to go with me! On the
' doorstep ' seeing out daughter and future GC - that's a completely different story.

It really does matter......no matter who you are......You need to educate yourself....
Maybe start on the nspcc website

But we don't know what his addiction refers to, do we.
Ofcourse if he was a paedophile he should be reported but there is no evidence that he is.
You are probably worrying unnecessarily.
Melinda
Sometimes ignorance is bliss.
Enjoy your DGC when it arrives.

Porn is not the same as a relationship.

Well, that depends on whether the relationship is based on love and respect, and not all are.

I just know I'd be beyond lived if people (an ex!) felt entitled to know the facts of my personal life.

I dont think it's about whether people have a right to know things, she does seem to know things,that shop seems to have sailed. I knew as a child about the usage of a friends family member. I didnt ask to know but couldnt unknow once I did if you see what I mean.

Ship not shop obviously

MissAdventure

None of those terms should be used about this person, regardless.
It has no bearing at all in his daughter's relationship with him, and is his own business.

This!

Perhaps the OP could come back and explain further?

I’m very wary of these dubious posts by new users who rarely return.

OP, how did you discover your ex ‘may be’ addicted to online pornography? Did you go into his phone/computer, or things he has said?
I’d be very interested to know.

This is malicious
First no one’s business much less an EX of 10 years for crying out loud she shouldn’t be in his business 10 years after they parted
Second she doesn’t even know … just ‘thinks’ so how does she know is she spying on him or looking on his phone etc ?
All you who are ‘shocked’ at men looking at porn might be surprised how many men and women do
Poster didn’t suggest it was anything to do with children or young people that’s a made up story by a poster way up
There is NOTHING to suggest a man who watches adult films would not be a good Dad or grandad
He sounds a very good Dad and they ve been apart 10 years leave him alone and get out his business Melinda