Later life dating

See if you can find a blues club in your area. In my experience they are full of men of A Certain Age who love music. They tend to outnumber the women there so who knows - there might be someone.

I was reluctantly persuaded by DD to give online dating a try, so signed up for the minimum period. Ideally it should be the perfect platform to meet like minded people …. However …. It attracts dishonest people with ulterior motives, and we’ve all read the horror stories in the paper. I “luckily” had quite a lot of men click on my profile, but visually, none appealed to me. DD told me to “think outside my box” 🤣 So I did and clicked on a retired business man who looked quite decent. After a few back and forth emails, he was boring me rigid, bowls club secretary etc ….. each to their own. When I politely bowed out of the conversation, he told me to think seriously about whether I even have time in my life for a relationship ! I had told him about my family, friends, travelling etc. I thought it was a very stupid comment, as when single, how lucky are you to have friends, family and interests to fill your life up with …. So I pointed this out to him and reminded him that life dosent come knocking on your door, you have to go out and grab it.
The 2nd man I started a chat with, within 2 days he had started inappropriate innuendo, and even had the audacity to ask me if he could come round to my house ! Given the guidelines laid out for internet dating, I was angry that he thought it was acceptable to be invite himself round, and clearly not a thought for me inviting a total stranger round. Needless to say, after my 6 months was up I was quite relieved 🤣

l agree with keeping quiets comments. I find it very hard to trust people so l know it wouldn't be for me.
I was married for 43 years, DH died just over a year ago. He told me during the time he was ill to find happiness with someone else.
I did, l got another rescue dog, Toby.

Your best bet would be to join a local walking group or try one of the online sites that are specifically for people who enjoy TGO. Outdoor Duo is a site I used in the (distant) past and met some really nice people. I have no commerical affiliation to it.

I think some men (and women) take a scattergun approach to dating because, let’s face it, we can sometimes fall for the unexpected, someone with whom we don’t really have that much in common. That can seem fine in the first flush but tensions soon creep in if one or both find themselves having to compromise more than they are comfortable with.

I would say don't write them off if they don't like walking/ dancing. You may meet a walker / dancer who is totally unsuitable in every other way!!! If you simply want a dance partner join a dance class / club. We have been married over 50 years , have very different likes - it has worked for us ! Keep searching, be careful and be a little more flexible. Who knows you may meet a non dancer you can convert! Good luck.

Do you want a relationship or do you want a dance partner?

I did my share of it but found these truths: men lie about their height and women lie about their weight, everyone uses the most flattering photo which looks nothing like them in real life, or rarely.
It is a mirage created for and by people who like the superficial things in life. If that's you, you may get lucky. Otherwise, you will get hurt.
This is why I and many other women have given up.

flappergirl

Unfortunately most "eligible" men are looking for younger women. So, a man of 65 or 70 with his own home who is financially secure and with no serious health issues (yet), would be expecting to attract a woman of around 50.

Please also bear in mind OP that a lot of men on older dating sites are looking for someone to nurse them in their old age. It really is a thing.

You would be surprised, mostly younger yes but that applies to all age groups, but it’s more important to be compatible and enjoy the same activities because as you get older you will be spending more time together.

Dating is harder for women several of my friends have been widowed or divorced in the last 5 yrs, they are not interested in a relationship.

Unfortunately most "eligible" men are looking for younger women. So, a man of 65 or 70 with his own home who is financially secure and with no serious health issues (yet), would be expecting to attract a woman of around 50.

Please also bear in mind OP that a lot of men on older dating sites are looking for someone to nurse them in their old age. It really is a thing.

I think there are not many men interested in walking and dancing, we walk modest distances but honestly I can’t remember the last time we danced properly - although I enjoy dancing, a jig around after a wedding is the only opportunity we’ve had.
Ballroom dancing is really not popular with men of any age, those that are have an abundant supply of ladies at dancing clubs.

There are plenty of men reasonably fit in their 60s, you have to decide if dancing gets priority over companionship.

If you are on a dating site, you are obviously looking for someone compatible to spend time with. If they do not or cannot do the activities you enjoy you are not being unreasonable. That is the point of a dating site.

If you want to walk and they can't - yes.