Online dating worry

Amazing that very intelligent people, men and women, in really responsible occupations get caught out by these SCAMMERS. Having watched a T.V. prograame showing examples of how these scams progress, what I can never understand is - the person carrying out the scam always seem to find it difficult to pay for the fare to visit their so-called love BUT, none of those being scammed say - 'In that case I will come and visit you' - instead they just keep shelling out money - sometimes for years!!
Advice to lady posting - RUN A MILE!!

These "out of the blue" requests occur regularly on my facebook account, usually american service men posted in Europe. Delete him and then block him, don't get drawn in any further.

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Don't feel stupid Beau! These scammers are very skilled. My clever son fell for a banking scam and was defrauded. Forgive yourself!

Have a good day.

My DH is very well educated and writes books. A few months ago he fell for a scam and we lost thousands. He felt so ashamed and foolish that he contemplated suicide. I felt very angry with the people who did this but I felt nothing but sympathy for my DH. I feel the same way about anyone who has been conned by unscrupulous scumbags as being able to trust others should be part of living in a civilised society.

I had a friend request from a 'retired, widowed dentist' living in America, accompanied by a photo that looked remarkably like a young version of a Hollywood film star whose name I couldn't recall. Blocked at once - why would he suddenly contact me?

I had a similar experiance googled the name given and found it was a scam the real american general was married and had family. Block them!!

Indigo8 I feel the same way about anyone who has been conned by unscrupulous scumbags as being able to trust others should be part of living in a civilised society.

The problem is we are now connected to the rest of the world via the internet, and many societies are not civilised. We not only have our own scammers and sharks to contend with but criminals from every country in the world.

We can only hope that youngsters are more savvy than older folk because this is a battle they will have to fight throughout their lives. The rule is to ignore ANYONE you don't know who contacts you out of the blue.

I get these all the time on FB, I just block them, when you look at their profiles it’s clear they ve just stolen someone’s photo and are posing as them, designed to lure what they think are vulnerable older ladies. Beware, don’t interact, just block xx

Typical scam!!! I get so many with very similar profiles wanting to be friends on fb mainly. Don’t want to sound unkind but I often wonder who would be gullible enough to fall for their story, wonder no more, now I know!!! Please sever all ties immediately, before the sob stories start!

As everyone else is saying I am almost sure this is a scam. If he's too good to be true....he probably isn't real. I have an Instagram account where I post various textile projects ( with absolutely no personal stuff at all, just the artwork) and it is AMAZING how many US servicemen are into machine embroidery! 🤣 Seriously, run for the hills and block him.

I have had similar, mostly in the army & widowed. I know it's nice to have the attention from such handsome men.
But who is really behind the keyboard, anyone can send false pics. It's not as if he's local or even from this country to be able to meet up somewhere safe.

Please BLOCK!

Such a textbook scam. Thank goodness you were suspicious enough to post on here Beau. I’ve watched too many YouTube videos about romance and other scammers to get taken in I hope.

Oh my love,its a scam,don't fall for it,do as others have said,block him,

Sounds pretty unkind to me.

Would be nice if genuine BUT IT'S NOT!!! Delete and don't reply to any similar messages. Report as spam/phishing.

It's a scam, block and report

60 ish and still a serving soldier? This sounds like a classic dating scam. If you can try to search internet images for his photos. When the BBC a we’re researching scams they found that the scammers had ‘stolen’ photos and these were now on dating sites with multiple identities.
He might be genuine, but the rule is NEVER, NEVER send money, gift cards or anything else to this person.
There are genuine nice guys out there. My son has married a girl he met on line and a friend has been nursed beck to health by an internet boyfriend she had only just met in person.

It's a scam ! block and report

What everyone else has said. I get them from time to time, always FB and my pic is of OH and me too.
Frankly, I wonder who would be bothered with contacting an old boot like me.
Delete, block and move on. Good luck too.

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Ask him to help YOU out with a considerable loan and see if he replies. It's a scam.

Yes, I'm thankful that many have warned you off. But I'm also thankful that, much as you were enjoying the communications between you and 'him', you had the sense to seek some advice before it was too late.

As someone said - watch the BBC programmes which reveal the way scammers work - it will hurt, I suspect, as much of what they tell you will already be familiar to you. But I'm SURE you action has saved you from losing a LOT of money!!

Beau1958

Out of the blue I received a message in my inbox on Tik-tok from a handsome looking serviceman in the US army he’s stationed in Poland. We started chatting sharing our brief life history, likes, dislikes etc. he messages me most days and has sent over two photos of himself and has asked me to leave tik tok to a different platform Google chat. I am quite wary of scammers and up to now no real red flags apart from ignoring some of my questions. His name badge and online name match he is around my age 60 possibly a few young’s younger. He is getting quite deep and meaningful in his messages about what he wants in a relationship and he’s looking for real meaningful love. He sounds like my ideal man and I was so excited about receiving his messages but a friend pointed out it could be a scammer. Has anyone had this experience before. What would you do ? I don’t want to put him off by asking him straight out?

For goodness sake wake up this is a well known scam, million of ladies have been caught looking for this "Ideal" man you are quoting. Drop him, do not answer any more messages as otherwise you will soon find your bank balance gone. You have been warned.

The poster "woke up" as soon as it was pointed out to her.

I shouldn't joke but I'm a bit miffed that no handsome American Serviceman has ever contacted me via FB or any other medium.

My very elderly widowed cousin was scammed about 10 years ago by a South African woman (or so "she" said) and lost thousands supposedly getting her and her sick son over to the UK. It wasn't till he contacted his sister for a loan cos he had run out of money that the family stepped in and stopped it pronto.

A close friend nearly lost money through something similar but she first asked me what I thought. My advice was "if you think it has even a one-per-cent chance of being a scam, it probably is". The fact that the OP has queried it means don't go there.

MissAdventure

Why would this post be a scam?
As everyone is pointing out, it's not exactly unheard of.

Honestly Miss Adventure!!!!!