Online dating worry

I’m so pleased to read that you have blocked and reported this scammer Beau1958.

These scammers are evil, and prey on our vulnerabilities. If anyone is at a lowish point in their lives, someone coming along on line pretending to be what they are not can soon take advantage of that momentary lapse a person might have and con them out of all their savings, and wreck their confidence and self esteem.

Do not beat yourself up about it - these scum are exceedingly clever. You had the very good sense to come on here and get everyone’s thoughts about it, and most posters have been kind to you in their response but have all, without exception, agreed it’s a scam.

Take care, and I’m sure this experience will have made you super wary going forward.

I get these on least a weekly if not twice-weekly basis. Usually a handsome silver fox type, often a US servicemen. Often standing by a private plane or smart car 😂. Plenty with pictures of dogs, kittens, flowers etc. So obviously a scam. I screenshot them and save them to a file marked ‘*ankers*. Never ever reply to them for goodness sake - they’re scammers who’ll ask for your money (having established a deep and meaningful relationship) just as they’re asking a hundred others for their money. Some unfortunate women have been scammed out of their entire savings and often refuse to listen to concerned friend or relatives, believing him to be ‘the one’.

Be very careful here.
I haven't had this experience with online dating, but on a penpal website where some men, and possibly some women too, post fake IDs.
Classically they are handsome, in uniform and have a very appealing profile. I was very clear in my profile that I was not looking for romance etc. This didn't seem to put them off.
There are a couple of things you could do to check this guy out.
You could put his name into Google images and compare information on there with what you are being told.
Secondly, and more effectively, you could ask this man to join you in a Zoom call or Facetime or equivalent.
If he's genuine, and as keen as you believe he is, there shouldn't be any issue with that.
If he avoids it for whatever reason, then maybe he's not who he says he is.
Most importantly, don't give him money or your bank details!
Good luck, I hope you won't be disappointed.

This is now quite amusing.

People who are replying without reading that the OP has already updated that she has blocked and reported the scammer. End of story!!

SCAM!!!!! I get at least 6 of these friendship requests per week, always in the military (!?!) NOT!

Funnily enough, I didn't. That's because it IS in the dictionary and means 'easily tricked'.
So obviously I am not. ( gullible )

Are you serious Beau 1958 ? Do you really think that this is OK and he your age but still in the military ? In Poland ? Do the Americans have a presence there ?
Be really, really careful and end this “ friendship “ before you disclose anything or more about yourself.
It’s a scam and has all the signs - next he will have inherited some money but needs a sum to release it or one of his children needs surgery and his money is tied up.
Very unlikely to be American, much more likely that he is Nigerian. Run,run,run and block all contact .

Block him. He is certainly a scammer

Read the previous posts folks
Good grief why doesn’t anyone read the blooming posts so up their own asses to give advice 🤣🤣🤣🤣

It’s been dealt with

Keep feet in ground!! Sadly it's flattery. Understandable

YES. I wrote to a 'captain' years ago. I sensed it was all too good to be true!! He sent a revolting email to me when he knew I wasn't falling for him / it

Worse, I was at a clients house some time later, TV was on and it was about a lady who had given her life savings to a captain!!! Same sad story with it, widowed lonely blah blah

I didn't go on another site for two years and guess what? I got a message from my profile and somehow my intuition bobbed in, this was the same man but dressed in Civic clothes with white shoes on.😊 Sat on a stool It was definitely him!! New guise!

If this person is genuine, he will never ask you for a penny and it will evolve healthily. Never meet him on your own or in a quiet place.

Sorry. Hadn't read many later messages, Too many

I won't go in another site. Wishing you all the best.
It's nice to meet people at Activities with like-minded people!
A friend went to the same coffee shop regularly and met her much in there

Ps
Love the reply to say you need some money - say you will pay it back 30% interest when your inheritance comes through!!🤣🤣😊😊😜

These sites should state no money requests!!! Or reported. But of course they care more about their turnover

Pippa22

Are you serious Beau 1958 ? Do you really think that this is OK and he your age but still in the military ? In Poland ? Do the Americans have a presence there ?
Be really, really careful and end this “ friendship “ before you disclose anything or more about yourself.
It’s a scam and has all the signs - next he will have inherited some money but needs a sum to release it or one of his children needs surgery and his money is tied up.
Very unlikely to be American, much more likely that he is Nigerian. Run,run,run and block all contact .

Block all contact
THE OP TOLD US YESTERDAY THAT SHE HAD.

Polly7

Ps
Love the reply to say you need some money - say you will pay it back 30% interest when your inheritance comes through!!🤣🤣😊😊😜

THE OP HAS BLOCKED HIM. 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Run! He’s a scammer. They’re always in the army or similar, often a medical job! They hook you in and I guarantee that his photo isn’t his.

Please walk away however tempting he sounds! Sounds too good to be true! SORRY.x

HE’S BLOCKED

CASE CLOSED, SORTED!

I was having trouble with our broadband - slow. We had a call from "BT". not Openreach saying they needed to have access to my computer and should press two keys. I told him I was not giving him access to my computer and he called me a F******g B******d.. Takes one to know one!!
I have never seen any contact on facebook from strangers as I only have about 37 friends My post don't go public, I hope

SCAM !

A friend of a friend has just been scammed out of 16k after sending a supposedly US service man the money to come to visit her in the UK some excuse about being stopped at the airport just as he was about to board and needed to get release papers etc etc that cost 16k. She was heart broken he’d been grooming her for 3 months she believed he loved her she’s 58.
Biggest scam going. Google reverse his picture then run for the hills. Go on a proper dating site not some random guy that try’s his luck with whoever will listen. Don’t be the next victim.

I too met a serviceman online, an American colonel serving in Iraq. We messaged each other many times, he said he was from Virginia, his photo in uniform checked out online so I thought he was genuine. However, he started asking me to send him things, a new phone cos his was faulty, it was his birthday coming up so a card and maybe some treats. I ended up sending him a new phone and a box of goodies to the P.O. Box he gave me.
He said the package didn’t arrive, so I checked the phone and it was located in Ghana. I put a block on it .
He then said that he had found some artefacts in tunnels underground in Iraq, and wanted to send them to me . I became very suspicious and asked him how he thought it easier to send them to me rather than his home. He said he would send them to me in a body bag!!! Pretending he was sending me a body killed in the war. I was horrified. He asked for the plane fare to do this.
I rang the American Embassy who confirmed there was a colonel with the name he’d given me, but from then on his story went wild. It was a scam known to the embassy, lots of people had been duped by it. A gang of crooks in Ghana preying on vulnerable older women who were happy with the attention they received, and willingly sent them gifts etc.
you never know who you can trust online, but if it sounds to good to be true it probably is. Just be very careful and do a bit of digging

I saw a program on TV about this and to find out more joined a fb group about exposing scammers
Unbelievable how much money some of the people on there had sent these men. One lady had sent all her money sold her house and was now living in rented flat! Another had tried 3 times and lost hundreds of thousands and it was all scammers. Some had been talking for 18months before they were asked for money. Those who had given their address were threatened with a visit from the scammers friends if they didn't send money. Don't think anyone actually had a visit though. But disgusting messages were sent after they refused to send any more money.
My friends on FB are all people I know in real life and have met face to face. 2 friends of mine have had accounts hacked after adding strangers to their friends list.
Well done OP for blocking this scammer.