Never a cross word.

I think it may be possible.

In my experience, it can be because one person continually gives way to the other.
Maybe I am cynical. I could well be.

It might be that they disagree gently and discuss everything tactfully and kindly, on the good side.

On the bad side, one constantly gives in to the more dominant one (and probably resents them for it)

Or one of them goes out of the room slamming the door before there is an opportunity for a row. Then after a while acts as if nothing has happened …til the next time.

We have been married 54 years in October. We have had lots of cross words and I think that's the sign of a healthy relationship.

kittylester

We have been married 54 years in October. We have had lots of cross words and I think that's the sign of a healthy relationship.

I think this too.
How can people possibly iron out the creases in a marriage without applying a hot iron?
And don’t know of any friends or relatives who didn’t encounter creases in their marriage.

We have been married for 45 years and had plenty of rows and do bicker a lot too. Still here though. I am a very tolerant person.

After 47 years of marriage I'd say we no longer have arguments, more a robust debate. We both know that a measure of compromise will be needed and seem to get there without actually falling out.

Amusingly, our little dog Alfie always comes and sits by me, leaning against my leg during these conversations 🐕
It's a running joke that he knows whose side he's on and who's right! 🤣

My husband would hardly ever row.
I could count on one hand the rows we had in 32 years of marriage.
He just used to walk out and go to the
pub.

henetha

My husband would hardly ever row.
I could count on one hand the rows we had in 32 years of marriage.
He just used to walk out and go to the
pub.

That's one way of never having a cross word 😀

My parents had a long and happy marriage based on the fact that dad always maintained that he wore the trousers........and mum just let him believe it!

I don’t believe it for a minute.

I certainly had my moments who agrees with someone they live with 24/7, it must be very boring.

Cannot believe it myself!

I would think that anyone who said in a Golden Wedding speech or at their spouse's funeral that they had never had a cross word, was conforming to what he or she felt was correct behaviour.

Most of our generation were taught not to wash our dirty linen in public, after all.

If anyone had asked me on the day of my husband's funeral, I would have answered truthfully that he and I had had blazing rows on many occasions, but then talked the matter through, made up and got on with our life together. Neither my sisters-in-law, their husbands nor our son would have believed me if I had said we never had had a cross word - DS would have died of laughter! And one of my husband's sisters if not them both would have called me a liar to my face!

I do know a couple who I would believe have never had cross words. They appear to have no ambitions outside of their family, go everywhere together, appear to like most of the same things and seem to do so very happily and gently. Whether they married because they felt like that or just grew together over the years, who knows. I've been told their daughter and son in law are just the same as them.

I've only known them about ten years, so it's possible they spent 60 years before that yelling at each other but I'm doubtful. To be honest, I can't imagine one without the other - they're more Darby and Joan than Darby and Joan.

Not a relationship I can imagine myself in, or anyone else I know.

Cross words don’t have to be full on rows. I can’t believe they never had a moan or niggle in all that time.
Must have been a boring relationship .

We had our arguments mostly with me telling him that he was wrong and I was right.

V3ra

After 47 years of marriage I'd say we no longer have arguments, more a robust debate. We both know that a measure of compromise will be needed and seem to get there without actually falling out.

Amusingly, our little dog Alfie always comes and sits by me, leaning against my leg during these conversations 🐕
It's a running joke that he knows whose side he's on and who's right! 🤣

After we got our dog, he used to shake whenever voices were raised, so the Bodach and I stopped having arguments!

Rarely row, both of us hate rows, but certainly bicker and disagree on things.

I can imagine nothing worse than a marriage where you agree on everything. How on earth can you reach considered views on any topic if someone doesn't listen critically to what you say and then put alternatives.

We are a family that enjoy elbows on the table discussions on everything from news, to cooking to frankly ridiculous topics.

I would say that's not a functioning marriage I am afraid.

In my (many) years as a journalist, I often had to interview couple celebrating big anniversaries, such as Golden or Diamond weddings, and from time to time, you would get a couple who claimed that they'd never had a cross word. I'd always think 'well, either you're lying - or one of you is a complete doormat'. I agree with Galaxy on this - it can't be healthy to never have argued or disagreed to some extent.

I never heard my parents arguing, it was a shock when I got married as we have argued from day one.

Obviously I am partly justifying my own endless whinging within marriage! but I listened to a psychologist discussing marriage the other day and the importance of not postponing disagreement.

My parents never argued, but living with them one became attuned to recognising when there was a difference of opinion, by what wasn't said rather than what was.