Cheating online

flappergirl

In my experience most men are incapable of having purely platonic relationships with women. Even if they manage to keep the facade at surface level, deep down they are always hoping for "more". If your husband has previous then your suspicions are probably valid. Apart from anything else if his behaviour is causing you upset then he should prioritise his wife's feelings and not those of another woman.

Sadly, I agree

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Problem is if she asks him and he admits it. What then?

Why don’t you ask him

On FB Messenger you can also tell who is on line.
To be able to see this the woman would have to be a 'friend' of the OP.

On one of her posts she says her husband has prostate cancer.

I hadnt noticed it was a month old.

But the poster does post from time to time on the site.

Well poster hasn’t come back in a month so I think we have been had

No I don't think you're being paranoid, especially if he's done it before. For some men, the attention and ego boost they receive from doing this is addictive. As others have said, ask him and hope he'll be honest with you. It's hard living with someone you don't trust. Good luck.

0n what's app you can see who is on line.

Some good replies on here.

How did he stop last time?

There really is no point just telling us.
Have a conversation with your husband.

In my experience most men are incapable of having purely platonic relationships with women. Even if they manage to keep the facade at surface level, deep down they are always hoping for "more". If your husband has previous then your suspicions are probably valid. Apart from anything else if his behaviour is causing you upset then he should prioritise his wife's feelings and not those of another woman.

Ask your husband.
No-one on here will know; you clearly suspect , so you have to ask.
Unless you ask the other person involved?

On WhatsApp you can see if a contact is online. I am guessing this is how she knows.

Am confused, to know exactly when the woman is online or offline as well as your husband she would have to be with you most of the time.
Anyway, if your husband has done this before is understandable that you would feel suspicious, building trust after a breach like this can’t be easy when, like many of us, he is probably online quite a lot. And it really isn’t a case of growing out of it your husband is a grown man who needs to take responsibility for his actions as well as your lack of trust in him.
There is only one way to deal with this and that is to ask him outright if he is cheating online. Of course there is the chance he will deny it but tbh if you feel so insecure in your relationship after the last episode you need to tell him and both of you need to decide where you go from there.
Wishing you luck with this.

Don’t see how you know they are both online ???

Gotellthebees

If you ask him, and he reassures you, would you believe him?

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How would you know they are on/off at exactly the same time??? Does sound a bit paranoid without any facts.

If you ask him, and he reassures you, would you believe him?

Well, emotional infidelity can happen online. But it depends on their relationship. I’ve got online male friends, many I’ve had for many years, most I know in real life, but they’re strictly platonic.🙂

I think you need to be sure that you're right before accusing your husband if anything.

He may well have learned his lesson last time, but I wouldn't stand for my (imaginary) husband to be spending time messaging someone else.

How do you know that they’re always online/ offline at the same time? Do you know her?
It’s a fact that a lot of men ‘cheat’ by having long online conversations with those who may or may not be women, how can one know? It doesn’t mean he’ll go out and meet her, the act of messaging is often enough for them.Not nice for you tho.
You need to have a talk with him about this and say you’re unhappy and won’t stand for it.