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Theshirelles Thu 31-Oct-24 01:11:51

I have known my partner for many years through work. We worked in the same place but the relationship was purely professional. He was married, I assumed happily. Then we both got I got jobs else where and we lost contact. Eighteen months ago we met on a dating site and started seeing each other. He was separated from his wife by this time and they were going through a divorce. When she found out we were seeing each other she did ask him if our relationship had started when we worked together and they were still together. He has reassured her that this is not the case but I am not convinced she believes him. About a year ago I moved in to his home but I kept my house up and our finances are completely separate. His divorce is not yet final due to disputes between him and his wife over the finances. He has recently been advised by his lawyer that I should move temporarily out and take my belongings out of his home until he is divorced so that my finances can not be taken in to account in his divorce settlement. Has anyone got any experience of this?

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NotSpaghetti Thu 31-Oct-24 01:51:27

No, sorry but I think others will have...

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Shelflife Thu 31-Oct-24 09:07:01

Sorry no experience of this . However it may be wise to follow his lawyers advice.

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David49 Thu 31-Oct-24 09:12:25

It shouldn’t make any difference if your finances are separate but if it enables the final settlement to be made more quickly it’s best if you’re not there.

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eazybee Thu 31-Oct-24 11:27:52

Check with your own lawyer.

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Iam64 Thu 31-Oct-24 11:33:44

What eazybee said - you’d be wise to ask your lawyer

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crazyH Thu 31-Oct-24 12:36:04

I am divorced. I was not earning at that time, as such, just the basic pay for keeping his books in order. He left me for a woman, who part-owned a business. They bought a house and moved in together. I think that had some part to play in my generous divorce settlement.
I would advise you not to move in with him just yet. Wait till his Decree Absolute comes through.

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crazyH Thu 31-Oct-24 12:36:44

P.S. check with your Lawyer

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Everdene Thu 31-Oct-24 13:43:18

If you do an internet search for something such as “ Will living with a new partner affect my divorce?” the search results include lots of websites giving helpful information. I’ve no experience of your situation but it seems that moving in with your new partner can definitely affect any financial settlement as part of his divorce.

“If you move in with a new partner during your divorce, their financial situation may be taken into account during the negotiations for resolving your matrimonial finances.”

As you have kept up your own house it might be a good idea to move back there - but do take legal advice before you get even more caught up in a potentially difficult situation, especially as he and his wife are already disputing the finances. I think I’d stay well clear until it’s all resolved.

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Astitchintime Thu 31-Oct-24 13:54:20

My OH ex thought she could make financial claim on my property until I produced a tenancy agreement stating that he was living in my property as a tenant - nothing more, nothing less. He didn't have to move out and as I travelled much of that time I was hardly there anyway.

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