8 month granddaughter doesn’t like me

Babies are fickle little things, so I wouldn't worry at all about this.

It's not you. It's the baby.

Try to babysit at her house so that everything isn’t strange,? it’s a stage all babies go through anyway, but to be whisked away from all she knows just once a week probably isn’t a good idea

Oh yes, that's a point.

Just ignore, don't react just be a kind and smiley grandma. Hopefully child's mother does the same and as time passes baby will accept the change in routine. She's probably happy to go to nursery because it's a more frequent activity in her week. It's nothing personal and it will pass.

I wouldn't take this too much to heart and as the OP says herself, her GD is upset when her Mum goes. All perfectly normal. Try taking her out and about. There are umpteen toddler groups, soft play areas, parks, libraries that run rhyme time sessions for little ones and places of interest where a toddler can go. Grannykd get out and about and she will start to see you as a fun Granny.

My younger Gdd was like this, cried if left with me at all, no cuddles! I don’t mind admitting that it was very upsetting, since her 2 elder siblings had been very loving from the word go. As dd would remind me, it wasn’t just me! She was the same with others, and the other granny.

However, she’s now 4, coming up to 5, and for the past year or so, thank goodness, things have improved no end. I do hope you will find the same.

18 months is the most difficult time for this.

My youngest DVD is over two years and is still.wary of us, but we don't see them that often so it's not like your case where you see her almost daily.

Just show her that there is trust and love between you and your daughter (or daughter-in-law, whoever the child's mother is).

Can you get your daughter on board and ask her to do some preparatory persuading before the handover? She could tell the little one that "it's going to be fun at Granny's today, you can wear your pink shoes and make pancakes" - that sort of thing.

DGD, not DVD, of course.

I love a wary DVD JackyB need to be on their toes at all times

title says 8 month old but I see that she is 18months so a toddler.
when you take her from her home make it a quick exit with her, don't prolong goodbyes.

I do feel for you , but it will pass. I had my GC one day a week before they started school. The difference being my DDs brought their children to me rather than me collecting them from their own home. I agree about no prolonged goodbyes ! You GDs behaviour is very normal - it isn't you she doesn't like or want but rather that she does not want to leave Mummy! Persevere and all will be well , please don't dwell on thinking ' my GD doesn't like me - that is not the case and those vibes will pass to her. It is distressing I recognize that but she is behaving in a way that is to be expected at 18 months of age. Good luck !

I've just picked up my eighteen month old granddaughter from nursery.
As ever, I was greeted with a frown and a question- " Mamma?" " Dadda ?" Clearly I'm a poor substitute.
All perfectly normal, I'd say - keep smiling, keep playing- she'll come round.

I wish grandparents would be updated on baby's and child's emotional and physical progress by age and milestones

Why does an adult expect a toddler to fulfill the adult's wants? Sigh

I am sorry, what is the problem? Sounds like standard baby behaviour. If she is still acting like this when she is 18, then you may have a problem.

she is ok when she has settled down

So what's the problem? I suggest it is that you don't understand that being parted from your mum whe you are 8 months old is a complete no-no. Put yourself in the 8-month's ols shoes socks.

As you say, she is fine when she has settled down. This means there isn't a problem. Happy baby-minding!

*old's

One of my 4 DC used to scream if I left him with anyone so I had to keep him with me always. Luckily he was good as gold with me and even more luckily I didn't have to go out to work.
I can't recall when he became less
fearful but he's a middle aged man
now with 2 teenagers of his own so he
must have grown out of the clingy
stage. 😉

It's awful though for you now so I do understand.

My daughter was a very easy going baby until she was 18 months old when any separation from me, however brief, brought on screaming and copious tears. Eventually this phase passed. It was resurrected when she started school. The teacher literally used to peel her off me, so tightly did she cling with arms and legs. This phase also passed. Please try to accept your granddaughter's behaviour as just a normal phase of babyhood. Wishing you well.

Looked after the two older GCs when they were quite young for a few days, they were fine, didn't ask about Mum and Dad, but after the parents came back the younger one wouldn't come near me for a while, obviously I was the reason that the parents had disappeared!

My experience was that babies around this age distinguish two people - Mummy and NotMummy. Daddy might be recognised but he’s no substitute for Mummy
Your DGC doesn’t dislike you, you are just NotMummy.
Be patient, it will come right.

Chocolatelovinggran

I've just picked up my eighteen month old granddaughter from nursery.
As ever, I was greeted with a frown and a question- " Mamma?" " Dadda ?" Clearly I'm a poor substitute.
All perfectly normal, I'd say - keep smiling, keep playing- she'll come round.

My Gdd2 used to cry all the way home when I picked her up from pre school - because I wasn’t daddy! But she was the same with the other granny.
That stage is now behind us, thank goodness.

do you perfume or loud soaps babies sometimes do not like smells and since they cannot voice what it is they just think "you"upset them

I ask this question nicely. Why is a grown woman who has brought up children of her own, worrying about the vagaries of behaviour of an 8 month old baby. She is the person in charge and presumably has years of experience with young children, so should surely dealing with this 'problem', if 'problem' there is, with a shrug of the shoulders and a hug and a kiss.

My grandson, once on his feet had no time for me, he had 2 grandma's, so the one who he saw less of (me) was merely a spare, if the other grandma was not around, but DH was his grandpa and the only one he had, and he would, when we arrived, swerve round me to get to his grandpa. This went on for over a year. I cannot say it troubled me much, and of course something happened, he changed his mind and I became someone he was delighted to see. He is 14 now and we get on like a house on fire.

Children are like that, come to that so are many adults.

Hithere

I wish grandparents would be updated on baby's and child's emotional and physical progress by age and milestones

Why does an adult expect a toddler to fulfill the adult's wants? Sigh

I agree. Some people are so needy. She’s a baby & behaving completely normally. As an adult, you just have to get on with it & not take it personally.