Going quiet

What's a while?
A long while?

A good few days

Then all of a sudden things go back to normal..where he is messaging me throughout the day

Also, what is not messaging you "much"?
Do you mean for days, or hours, a week?

Sorry, not being the Spanish inquisition, just trying to gather info, because everyone's idea will be different.

Have you spoken to him about it?

Does he go strsight back to work after leaving you, and is it a job where he will need to catch up with what's currently going on when he arrives back?

Perhaps he has a job which makes it difficult to txt..
Or maybe you worried he has another relationship?

The only solution to this is to share your feelings with him and talk it through in as non-judgemental a way as possible.

It may well be that sometimes his work takes up most of his attention.

There is only one way to sort out this problem if you want to take your relationship to the next level. You have been with him nearly two years and it is perfectly reasonable for you to want to discuss this issue.

Yes he goes straight to work. And yes he usually has to make up time because he always stays longer than planned

Does he have other commitments family etc?

Perhaps he sometimes needs some quiet time after bring in your company for a week or so?

Not you, specifically, but any company.

Yes could be he needs quote time..true..

No he has no other commitments

Thank you so much

Reading these posts are really helping me to see things clearly..differently.. opening my eyes

Soo grateful

Coming to stay with you ‘some weekends’ and ‘over holidays’ doesn’t sound like much of a relationship. He spends most of his time away from you. Why do you settle for so little, and why does he spend so much time away?

Shall I just not message him..and leave it ..til his ready perhaps..

Thanks to these posts I have found a new understanding of his behaviour

I suppose there is only one way to find out, and that will be to ask him.

I can understand you might feel reticent about it, but it's reasonable to ask, purely out of curiosity.

Answer to your question @Barleyfields

He works away

But he retires soon

Carmen54

Yes could be he needs quote time..true..

No he has no other commitments

Are you sure?
What does he do with the rest of his time- the other weekends etc?
Red flags to me.

I know he works away. But he only sees you ‘some’ weekends. Why not every weekend?

He comes most weekends

But coming ti me involves alot if travelling..he is 64 and it's draining and tireing for him and so he usually works Saturday if he is not with me and rests the whole if Sunday

Why does he only see you some weekends if you are his partner?. Perhaps you want more than he does, you need to talk I think.

Hi Allsorts did explain why only some weekends on previous post thanks

I wouldn't be at all concerned about having to see him every time he wasn't at work.
That would suit me fine.

Do you believe that this man has a deep emotional relationship with you which is going to lead to living together when he retires, or is it, on his side, little more than just a sexual relationship?