Why do I feel like BF has taken advantage or is it just DH overreacting?

If it cost just a bit more than a charity shop, you probably have a bargain. If you like it, and it's an improvement on the one you had, just enjoy it. Are the scuffs on fabric, leather or wood?

Did your husband see it before you bought it?

How did the price you paid compare with buying a new one.

Suggest to DH that if he doesn't like this one, he goes out and buys a new one - with no contribution from you.

I didn't feel the need to see it as I've sat on it when over at hers. Don't recall the scuffs, but I'm not as fussy as DH, who seemed to expect a perfect sofa for a knock down price. It's a good quality make and retails at c£350. I paid her £175, having started at £200.

If it would cost £350 brand new I wouldn’t describe it as a good quality make. I think your friend has taken advantage of you. Perhaps she had something draped over the marks when you saw it? Anyway, too late now but I’m not surprised at your husband’s reaction.

Sorry but I think your BF has taken advantage. Why not have a word with her. Can you live with it?

For this reason I wouldn’t buy from a friend. Anything to do with money is tricky.
But I think she might have overcharged you if it is damaged but is hard to tell without seeing it or knowing how old it is.

My sisters have made the same mistake in having sofas from friends. Changing sofas means you have to get rid and that isn't easy any more- much easier to find someone a bit gullible to take it off your hands.

Lesson learned I think...I do think DH probably has a point.

Buy cheap buy twice!

How old is the sofa? I would say you have paid far too much for a second hand sofa which would only cost £350 brand new. I'm not surprised that your husband is not best pleased.

Does BF stand for Best Friend - I almost thought it was Boy Friend 😂

How old is this sofa?
If more than 2 years old then she has vastly over-charged you. It has obviously been well used. How did it get scorch marks on the arm? Is she a careless smoker? Does it smell of smoke?

I'd not be best pleased if I was your DH either.

DS27

Assuming that is a typo! 😁
Unless you're the old woman who lives in a shoe, which I'm sure you're not!

Does this settee have a (visible) a Fire Safety label?
If not, you could tell her that your family aren't happy with the potential risk it could cause and that you wish to return it.

She has taken advantage of you, sorry.

Unless it was really good condition, I think half new price is a lot to pay for a second hand sofa.

Should have offered £50, and perhaps compromised on £75.

Plus your DH fetched it, she didn’t have to deliver it.

And she was a smoker!

Yes, you’ve been ‘done’.

Now you have bought the sofa let it go. It's done. You can't really go back on it. Make the best of it and don't dwell on it anymore and ask your DH not to mention it again.

I hope your DH isn’t giving you to much grief over this OP?
These things happen and I’m sure you’ll have learned a valuable lesson.

You could ask your BF to take it back, but I doubt you’d be successful there. I think you’ll have to make do for a couple of years, then maybe explore SCS or DFS who sell decent sofas with 4 years interest free credit.

Don’t let this get you down.

I would have only offered £50, £75 tops for a sofa that was £350 new, considering it has scuff and scorch marks also. Doubt anyone else would have bought it for much more. So yes, I think she has taken advantage.

Friendship is worth nore than the sofa or the money. Don't go back on the deal. I agree with others . Don't buy from friends. Cut your losses and live with the sofa or buy another one that both of you see before you buy.

Chances are even local charities didn’t want it because of the skanky condition you describe.
It’s not worth a light.
So, did she see you coming? Yes.

Your friend has ripped you off OP, she saw you coming.

Barleyfields

If it would cost £350 brand new I wouldn’t describe it as a good quality make. I think your friend has taken advantage of you. Perhaps she had something draped over the marks when you saw it? Anyway, too late now but I’m not surprised at your husband’s reaction.

Maybe there's a missing "0" at the end of the price?

But yep....I was thinking that my sofas were respectively £2,500 (sofabed) and £700 (small sofa) and I regard them as reasonable (mid-price range) quality.

....and I agree that she's charged you too much for this sofa. Say £350 brand new would maybe be £100 secondhand? and then knock some off that for the marks.

Did she point out the marks to you - or say nowt and hope you wouldn't notice until too late? She was defo due to say "BTW - there are the following marks at such and such point on it" and doing anything other than commenting on it would get interpreted by me as "She knew and deliberately said nothing....!!!"

Also seen the bit re the fire safety label - and I got rid of a small sofa I had previously (maybe would be around £500 new???) and it was a problem to get rid of and in the end I just gave it away to a local charity - and they made sure it had a fire safety label on it before they came and fetched it. If it hadn't had that safety label then not even a charity would have taken it.

I think you can only blame yourself for not thoroughly examining the sofa before handing over £175, which is too much to pay for a damaged, second-hand piece of furniture. Charities, these days, do not accept items like these, especially without the fire safety label. If it has caused a rift between you and your husband, maybe consider buying another one, which you choose together?

Chalk it up to experience ftm or, as my dad used to say: "Take it in your stride." And tell your DH to stop moaning.