I'm the untidy one in our house but fortunately my husband has the patience of a saint 
To clarify, he can be supportive in many other ways, which is why I feel bad.
Ill health means I struggle to do things. I came back from the shops to find that the whole house had been vacuumed, the washing done and the glasswork cleaned.
However, that did not mitigate the fact that he had left the dishwasher door open and, of course, I fell over it! 
I find myself at times getting really irritated with my husband's untidiness. It's the type where he never shuts a door or drawer after himself . Things never put away etc. He has always been the same but I guess now we're both retired it irks me more.
But it's my reaction to him at times that I am worried about. Under my breath or in my head I become really foul mouthed, swearing and calling him all the nasty names under the sun. I can't blame pmt or menopause at 73!
I know I am also frustrated by his behaviour. It is as if he is thinking himself old and behaving as such unnecessarily which adds to my irritability. I sometimes feel I am spitting venom! He has many positives btw which have kept us together for 45 years. And when i mention how difficult his untidiness is things improve for a while. But it's the anger and really foul language going on in my head or out of his earshot that is concerning. Am I getting nastier or going mad or both!!? Has anyone else experienced this?
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