Not seeing grandchildren

Strangely if the court approves it she will comply. It is a strange game she plays.
She doesn't have a choice.

Access is sorted out during divorce. Why does your son have such a small allowance of time?
Why does he not insist on alternate Christmas and Birthday access?

They were never married. My son has such a small allowance of time because this is what the court agreed, 'crumbs from the table' is what we were told.
Every time he asks for Chrstmas and birthdays from the court but they never discuss it. They always recommend the parents sorting it out between themselves, which they should do but it never happens because she knows she has all the control.
He is frightened to ask for any more time from her.

Ah.
Is he registered as the father?

Yes he is.

GC has his name.

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She is possibly angry and using the children to hurt their father, sadly it is common. Hopefully when she is calmer things will settle down even if it is only because she wants some free time. As the children get older they will ask to spend time with your side of the family, it will be difficult to ignore a child's request and not give reasons. They will form their own opinions of their father and if she bad mouths him will soon work out what she is doing.

Very sad when children are used as weapons, it is a short window though as from about 10 upwards they can form their own opinions and loudly make them known, then there is a lot of life to have a relationship with him.

As *Elowen33" says the child may well make her own mind up about seeing her father as she grows up. I have a friend whose ex-wife (30 years ago) was equally manipulative when they split up and he didn't see his boys for 15 years, but now as adults the boys and he have a fantastic relationship - and with his GCs.

Of course, he missed all their childhood milestones which could not be replaced.