Won't wear his hearing-aid

I grew up with a deaf (hearing aid wearing) father.
He said when he first got them the noise of traffic was horrendous but his audiologist had warned him not to take them out.
He wore them all day every day - he said it just took a little while.

I see now how lucky I was to have a responsive and fully engaged father - how much we would both have lost if he hadn't done this.

Could you ask him to do it for you if he won't initially do it for himself?
As someone said upthread, can you speak to him - (write it if he won't listen) that you will do your best to face him and enunciate as clearly as possible and that in exchange he must persevere with them.

You could say you will agree to this for (?) four weeks? If it was my husband I'd call his audiologist and ask how long it usually takes for someone to get used to this particular type. You can say you are not asking for personal information about your husband (because obviously they aren't able to disclose personal details) but they may well look back over his consultations and give you a window that you can agree on.

Maybe find a study or "serious" article or two that will help him understand the benefits to everyone

I do hope you can address this. Tell him you love him and don't want him to slip away from you... I think this would be something that would motivate me (and my husband) to work hard at it.

Good luck. Thinking of you both.

Sounds like you’ve had a lot of difficulty over the years with him. Is it too late to start afresh?

My husband refuses to wear hearing aids because he insists that other peopl speak too quietly - you are right Loopyloo deafness is difficult to live with.I am deaf, wear hearing aids and feel more isolated every day. Currently in hospital and can’t see the lips of staff wearing masks.

I think now we've all had the experience of coping with masked faces during covid, we've realised that actually looking at someone is a very important part of hearing.

You are right ExDancer I can't hear properly when spoken to (at a distance) when I'm at the swimming pool - because I don't wear my glasses to swim.