Relationship with my daughter.

What makes you think your children find you so boring?
Do you have a really close friend that also know your children.

I ask this because one of my very close friend had a very difficult relationship with her daughter.
One day she called round as she was very upset with the situation.
To cut a long story short, I told her what the problem was. It was her attitude to most things.
She didn’t say a word, she just got up and left.
2 days later she popped round again to thank me ( profusely) 😊
She had thought deeply as to what I’d said and knew it was true.
We are still the closest of friends.
Ask a friend for their honest opinion.

J52

Is it a mother and daughter thing? I have 2 DS and they just see me as Mum! Almost an institution, there for giving advice, rarely, having good coffee and the occasional chat. I’m sure it’s not that you’re boring, but we are all just familiar people, possibly there’s no need to make a huge effort on their part.

Mine never take advice from me. Which saddens me as ( and most people don’t realise this about me) I’m actually quite practical and sensible. I tried to give my DIL some very good advice health wise the other day but she and my son chose to ignore me ( must point out that I rarely hand out advise like that but it had been passed in by someone who had been in a similar situation and who stressed how important it was).

nightowl

Maybee I could have written your post. I’ve had the same realisation over the last week or so and I’ve been feeling very sorry for myself. I know I’m lucky that she’s healthy and happy, but the truth is, I just miss her. So I can’t offer any words of advice but do send empathy and

Thanks. I just miss how close we were and how much we had in common ( and still do politically and musically).

Is it a mother and daughter thing? I have 2 DS and they just see me as Mum! Almost an institution, there for giving advice, rarely, having good coffee and the occasional chat. I’m sure it’s not that you’re boring, but we are all just familiar people, possibly there’s no need to make a huge effort on their part.

Maybee I could have written your post. I’ve had the same realisation over the last week or so and I’ve been feeling very sorry for myself. I know I’m lucky that she’s healthy and happy, but the truth is, I just miss her. So I can’t offer any words of advice but do send empathy and

Oh I do ask first advice. I tried to do that today but it was rather shrugged off.

I'm sure they don't MayBee.
You are their mother.
My DH died over 4 years ago and like you I sometimes feel inadequate.
Not boring but I'm not him! We all miss him.
Perhaps you should ask for their advice sometimes?

I’ve always been fiercely independent. I think I just feel sad that my kids find me so boring.

I don’t think it is the job of a parent to be a friend to their child. If we are lucky our children like us and value us enough to include us in their lives, but this is not a matter or right and we need to be tactful as well as independent for the relationship to flourish.

My relationship with my DD and all her brothers has changed over the years. It must. They have their own lives and worries.

This is a reason I would not move to be near any of them.

They phone me and still like to talk things over sometimes but I think they unconsciously resent that I am retired and can please myself!

Could it be similar with your DD?