Not sure what to do re jewellery

My son loves his "family" cufflinks.
He probably found them boring at 18 but he wore them to his wedding.

FriedGreenTomatoes2

Calendargirl I’m noticing you are reporting a fair few posts today and I’m not quite sure why! Which post (you haven’t specified) and I’m somewhat bemused.

FGT

Yes, I’ve reported 14 posts by Jessicabrown today, on various threads, all spam, all the same rubbishy message, which HQ have deleted.

I realise it looks like it refers to a previous legit comment, which is unfortunate, I know.

I haven’t gone trigger happy, honestly!

I’ve left my bits of jewellery to one of my granddaughters who asked if she could have her grandads ring after he died. I gave it to her and she wears it every day and treasures it so I know she will appreciate what I am leaving her.
I have made a new will since my husband died and have left each of my other grandchildren a monetary gift so they are all having the same.
I have told my son about this and he thinks it’s a great idea as it means they will all have the same and hopefully no arguments.

FGT2. I think GNHQ are now removing the reported posts (if considered necessary) completely, so there’s no trace of them.
I’ve reported quite a few recently - adverts/spam that’ve resurrected old threads, but I haven’t posted the usual REPORTED, so that the thread doesn’t stay in the active posts. When I look again, the entire ‘rogue’ post has gone.

jocork your DD could get your yellow gold rings rhodium plated. When I first saw my emerald ring it was 18ct yellow gold, but I had it rhodium plated and it looks like white gold/platinum. I’ve had the ring 20 years and have just had the ring done a second time.

Calendargirl I’m noticing you are reporting a fair few posts today and I’m not quite sure why! Which post (you haven’t specified) and I’m somewhat bemused.

My daughter inherited quite a lot of jewellery from her paternal grandma, to whom she was very close. She wears several pieces including the wedding ring but some was broken down and remodelled into a beautiful modern ring which she loves. She had it designed and made and even though she provided the gold and the gemstones it still cost about £2K. It is, however, a stunning piece. She also knows that her grandma would approve.

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Maccy. I was given a ring by my Nana when I was a teenager. It was made from several rings And far to small as an adult. It was a composit of several of her rings. Comparatively recently I had it made into something I liked although he used the diamonds he advised to use new gold If you do decide to go down that path check out craft jewellers some are really innovative and the cost can vary tremendously

twiglet77

Neither of my daughters would wear inherited jewellery, they’d rather sell it!

My DD whose 32 wears her grandfathers st Christopher on a gold chain . She was very close to him and loves wearing it . She also gets lots of compliments on it .
But I do understand your dds , jewellery is very personal .

The great thing about wearing jewellery that has zero value is you have none of this dilemma to worry about

Yes, what do we do with all these things? Who wears a pocket watch with Albert every day (as my father and grandfather did)? Who of the young wear 'proper' cufflinks? Junior daughter snaffled my grandmother's rings (one diamond cluster, one ruby and diamond - which I used to wear) and took them back to NY. The flat was burgled, so that is one inheritance problem solved!!! Then there is all the lovely silver, from candlesticks to cutlery - the young don't know what a bottle of Silvo is!! Then there are solid silver presentation cups, which are of supreme disinterest to the young .......................... and so it goes on!

I am sure you all have these things in your houses - but what on earth to do with them? Suggestions gratefully received!

I shall leave all my jewellery to DD, knowing she won’t wear it because it’s gold and if she wears any of it at all, it is silver. If she chooses to sell it that’s fine. My grandson will have DH’s signet ring - he already has a pair of his cufflinks. My son already has a very special pair of his father’s cufflinks and will, when I choose to let them go, have his father’s medals, and my father’s. What will he inherit of mine? My Swiss Army knife, a pair of good binoculars and my best fly rod😁!

62Granny

Did your dad have a nice watch or a pair of cufflinks or even a war medal or something else that your dad valued like something special related to a hobbie. It might not be used but might still be valued for the sentiment.

Another vote for cufflinks

My mother gave me her rings before she died,
I.m not sentimental about anything especially jewellery so I gave my older sister the wedding ring and sent the engagement ring and eternity ring to my cousins girls in Canada,they were mums youngest siblings GC and had never met their granny who died young ,or any of her family…they were delighted

or any of her family

Neither of my daughters would wear inherited jewellery, they’d rather sell it!

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I would be devastated if anyone were to melt down my rings to make something else. I know it’s practical if you would never wear the rings but so much history and sentiment goes with them. I also wear my mother’s rings. It reminds me of seeing her wearing them.

Sorry to hi-jack your post Silvermane, but I'm in a similar position. I have just had my late mother and grandmother's jewellery valued and am undecided what to do. I will give half the value in cash to my brother. I will leave my wedding rings and other items to my 3 sons and it's up to them what they do with them. I do not wear much jewellery so unsure whether to have ear-rings made (which I do wear) or take the cash and buy something else to remember them by. Any ideas welcome..... Thanks

My mother left her engagement ring to me, and I was all for having it redesigned as I thought it a bit old fashioned, but the moment I slipped it on my finger I could “feel” my mum and changed my mind. I am so glad I did and I have worn it every day since I got it. Very time I look at it it reminds me of my mum. I would talk to your son and see what he says. It’s a lovely idea you are thinking of doing.

You don't need to give your son anything. Why do people always think that if they give one adult child something they have to do the same for the other(s)? Each person is different and there will be a time when you give something to your son. You don't have to then compensate your dd just because ds has something.

If you are getting your jewelers melted down , go to a working craft jeweler who will use your gold and not just put it in a general melting pot. Perhaps you could think of a design which would retain the hallmark from the rings, which would keep them more personal.

I am sort of in the same position. Two sons with on DGS and one DGD. When my DD died ny son in law gave me jewellery she had but he hadn't bought. I gave tgem to bt DGD. When DH died I gave gold watch to DGS. As to my jewellery I have had it all valued and have expressed it can either be all sold (which I think will be the preferred option) or sons can divide according to the value of each piece. I am not referring to the cheap stuff used more for dressing up.

I should add that neither of them liked the idea of me having the rings made into something for them . They don’t appreciate my taste 🙄and each individually said that the sentiment of owning jewellery that their grandparents had worn meant a lot more than the item. (Although I encouraged them to promise they’d do something different, like sell it or have it remodelled if they ever wanted to ).

As an aside jocork you are better to leave your jewellery out of your will altogether, but leave a letter or verbal instructions about its disposal.
My MinL listed all her jewellery which was to be given to her DD but it was given a monetary value and added into her total estate. DH wasn’t bothered, but in effect his sister received far more than him - as everything else was halved between them.