I've resisted writing this down but now feel the need. Slowly, slowly my dear daughter has become more distant and selfish over the last few years. She's married with 3 lovely children. I've given her everything from money, support in childcare, work, exams etc. Before Covi d it was fine - afterwards noticed a slight decline but thought it was imagination. Her relationship with my Son has deteriorated as well as myself and husband. I had cancer last year and a big operation. She lives 10 minutes away and it took her 5 days to come see me. I've had a cataract removed and had problems but she never asked if I was ok or needed anything or a chat just for the sake of it. I asked today if she fancied a concert with me next year - she said no to go with a friend. Her husband has always seemed possessive which unnerved me in the beginning, but then thought nothing of it. Over the last few years though things have got worse. If I arrange anything separately with her he always makes an excuse to join us, doublebooks, or trumps the occasion. He sometimes just ignored me even when I've babysat. He would never want to spend Xmas with us, she alwAys had to go to his house. I've never in 10 years been invited for a meal ( his parents do). Anything I buy or try to help with is discarded. Am upset more today as found out they're taking his mother on holiday ( I used to pay for him to join in our foreign holidays) , after I discussed with Daughter I wouldn't mind joining in this time around after all I had been through. I've also just found out my youngest grandchild goes to stay at her house when I ask DD time and again to bring her here and we could have coffee, or go out or anything. I find DD lies a lot. I thought I was being paranoid but my Husband says not as he's seen it too but mentioned nothing. I know I can't challenge or change it or will lose GrandChildren. Maybe writing this down helps. We used to do so much together.
