Unrealistic?

I left out a line or a word yes, before the first but word.
As in yes, talk with your daughter.

OP I don't think you should expect help, but you could certainly talk to your daughter and see what she says.

But there are things we dont know from this thread.

Do you gamble?
Haven they lent you money before?
I presume you have made bad money choices before?
Have you given some to an unsuitable partner for example?

None of the above may be remotely true.
But there are a lot of unknowns here.

Skydancer

I can’t believe how so many people who are immensely wealthy don’t want to part with their money. If I was rich I’d help everyone I know.

Believe me we are not rich but have helped our ACs out on occasion, to my way of thinking is what you do for family.

I can’t believe how so many people who are immensely wealthy don’t want to part with their money. If I was rich I’d help everyone I know.

I am marginally worried about my long term situation. My income is on the low side but fine for everyday needs/heating and a UK holiday. but not enough for top up fees in a decent home.

My sister is very well off indeed (2 x millionaires) BUT the money is mostly her husbands and he has a mean streak. Initially she pledged me help for this long term need.

I cannot rely on my son as they have a daughter who is so disabled she will need long term institutional care, or I wouldn't be concerned at all.

My sister initially pledged that I wound have to worry, but has since withdrawn it as a certainty.

It is the case that they have 6 children in all and they are her first priority should something go wrong, but what they have is pretty massive.

She did mutter in the conversation about it not being certain, that were she alone with all the money it would be a certainty.

but as far as I am concerned its a long way in the future, I'm only 74, and in good physical health.

Doodledog

There is no way I would see my mum become homeless, particularly if my husband was a multi-millionaire. Could they buy a house and rent it to you? That way they wouldn't lose out as they would by paying rent for you.

I wonder if they fully grasp the situation you are in? There is no harm in explaining the reality and asking for advice as to what you should do. Then if they want to help they can offer.

That is an excellent suggestion. The one with the money if they are mean would not lose out.

They may not give you this help, but its worth asking.

Can your daughter help you go to the local council or help you to find sheltered housing? Are you eligible for it at your age? Are there any benefits you can claim to get you into a more secure position?

A friend of mine, about your age was living in a mobile home on a caravan park, having suffered bad luck and estrangement when her wealthy(er) brother took pity on her and he bought a flat
which she rents. It's working out well.
Ofcourse this can't happen for everyone but your Council should be able to find you affordable accommodation.

Is this the one daughter with the older partner who you think is being controlled?

Have you approached your local council or housing associations for help as you are of pensionable age and shoukd be a priority for rehousing?

Is itmjust one daughter you have, or do you have two?

Life is not fair and very unlikely works out as expected

What can you do on your end to prepare for this change?

Well if my daughter was married to a genuine multi millionaire then I can't deny that I would certainly hope for some help. Especially if I was essentially destitute. I too have ended up in not a good place at the age of 68 and you have my sincere sympathies OP. I think Nashville's suggestion is excellent, but whether you can persuade for your son in law is another matter. I wish you all the very best.

Thanks all for your input. I’ll be back with an update at some point. Hopefully with some positive news

One idea is to ask your daughter and son in law to purchase a flat which you will rent off them. A colleague of mine did this as the sil had a well paid job and could get the finance. The flat was viewed as a nest egg for the future to help cover the grandchildren’s potential university fees. A win win.

I’m so sorry you are in this position. I’ve had a section 21 served on me and it’s devastating.

Correction - can happen to anyone

Vee123

What I’ve learned is that life can turn on a dime. I worked all my life and was prepared to carry on working as long as I was able. I lost what I had through some bad decision making and some plain bad luck

It am happen to anyone. I just feel sorry that at your time of life you find yourself struggling like this.
All the very best 🌹

You say you are very close to your daughter. If that’s still the case can you talk to her about your situation and ask for practical help to find alternative accommodation from, for example, social housing providers where you aren’t at the mercy of a private landlord? Help doesn’t have to mean financial assistance but simply another person trying to find alternative accommodation quickly. 2 heads are better than 1 and all that! Good luck, I hope things work out for you.

I don’t think we should expect help from anyone; but I would be furious if my mum became homeless and hadn’t given me a chance to help if I could. The same applies to my children, and my MIL.

If it’s not possible because of money being tied up, or for any other reason, so be it. But I can’t see any harm in spelling out the situation so that if the daughter wants to help she has the opportunity to do so

What I’ve learned is that life can turn on a dime. I worked all my life and was prepared to carry on working as long as I was able. I lost what I had through some bad decision making and some plain bad luck

I just don’t think we should expect our children and definitely not our in laws who aren’t even married to help us financially anyways sounds as if he might not even know you are struggling
Go to citizen advice and see if they can point you in the right direction for help and support

Vee23 - i feel so bad for you. As someone said, I’m sure you will be entitled to benefits. I don’t see any reason why you should not talk to your daughter. I’m sure if the tables were turned, she would talk to you and you would help her .
I hope your situation improves x

Without knowing the man and what your challenges have been how can anyone possibly say?

If someone is a multi-millionaire on paper, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they have liquid assets. Wealthy people tend have their money tied up working for them … to make more money.

What is it that you would like him to offer to do without being asked? Offer you money? Offer you a job? Offer you a home?

If you have a close relationship with these people then they must be aware of your situation.

I wonder if key to this is your own words: … life hasn’t worked out how I’d hoped. Lots of reasons - some my fault some not.

Maybe there is some element of judgement going on here about your past behaviour or past poor decision-making? Just a thought. It’s what the wealthy in society often tend to think, don’t they? They are apt to blame the poor for their own predicaments. Happens in families as well as in society as a whole.

Could they buy a house and rent it to you?

I was about to suggest that too.
You'd retain your independence and it would be an investment for them, too.

There is no way I would see my mum become homeless, particularly if my husband was a multi-millionaire. Could they buy a house and rent it to you? That way they wouldn't lose out as they would by paying rent for you.

I wonder if they fully grasp the situation you are in? There is no harm in explaining the reality and asking for advice as to what you should do. Then if they want to help they can offer.