Unrealistic?

No, I wouldn’t expect him to give me anything. He is not related to you, he doesn’t have any responsibility for you.

First I m so sorry to hear you are losing your home it’s not a good position to be in and has probably been a big shock to you
However in answer to your question, no, I wouldn't expect help from a partner of your child he may not be aware of all your difficulties and even if he is (immaterial of his financial status) you really aren’t his business
I wish you good luck in finding a new home as soon as possible

Do you get on well with your daughter and her partner? Do you have a relationship with your granddaughter? You don’t sound very fond of any of them. Judging by your tone, I wonder if perhaps you have distanced yourself from your daughter and granddaughter, as I would have thought that if you were close, your daughter would have wanted to help you, in which case she could have asked her partner to step in, if she wasn’t in a position to bail you out herself. You said they have known about your situation for two years, but done nothing to acknowledge it. I am wondering why you think they should. You are not his responsibility, or hers, and there is no reason why either should help you, especially if, as I suspect, you are not close.
I agree with Casdon. There is nothing to be done. You cannot ask for money.
Do you have coffee dates with your daughter? Or visit? Does she visit you? I suspect not, and this shows you are not close. I suggest you look to your relationship with them and see if you could encourage a closer family unit. But I fear you might have left it too late.

Our lives rarely work out as we hoped. A life without regrets is a life not lived enough- I am sure you have done some good things and it is not too late to make amends or start afresh.

At your age I'm not sure why you are struggling to get work as you should be on state pension by now and if not there should be benefits to help you out. How long notice have you been served with? I would contact your local council, CA and even Age UK to find some new accommodation.

I wouldn't expect any help. My daughter's in-laws are also very wealthy compared to me but it would never occur to me that they would help me out in any way. I am happy that my daughter is financially secure, as my GC will be.

So yes you are deluded but maybe wishful thinking too.

Seek help where it is available and stop expecting others to help- I do hope you can get some self confidence back and sort things out for yourself.

To be clear - I have always had a very close relationship w my daughter and been very involved w my granddaughter and her father

That update puts a different perspective on it. Whilst I don’t think you can ask for money, you could talk to your daughter about the situation and maybe she will be supportive. Whether that results in financial support or help with accommodation is up to them.
I presume you are in the UK as you mention Section 21. Are you not on Pension Credit? That can include Housing Benefit, so you need not be destitute.

Does your daughter know about your present position with your rented accommodation?
You say that SiL has known about your struggles for 2 years, but by that do you mean he just has a general idea?
You have never asked for help so maybe they assume you are too proud to ask and they don’t want to offend you, however am taking more generally, but if they know you are about to be made homeless I imagine they would want to help in some way.

Time will tell I suppose

In the meantime I’ll be doing everything I can to find somewhere to live

Cabbie21

That update puts a different perspective on it. Whilst I don’t think you can ask for money, you could talk to your daughter about the situation and maybe she will be supportive. Whether that results in financial support or help with accommodation is up to them.
I presume you are in the UK as you mention Section 21. Are you not on Pension Credit? That can include Housing Benefit, so you need not be destitute.

The problem is Cabbie that OP is not necessarily on Pension Credit. I live in rented accommodation, but am not eligible for Pension Credit.

I'm very lucky that I've lived in the same house for years and the landlord has only once increased the rent, but I dread being evicted, if/when he sells.

I would find it very difficult to find anywhere in the private rental market which I could afford. My income is nowhere near the minimum which most agents demand and I don't have anybody who could act as a guarantor. I would have to wait until I'm homeless and rely on the local council. to find me somewhere, which would mean living in one room in a run-down motel until something more suitable came along.

OP I don't think you should expect help, but you could certainly talk to your daughter and see what she says.

There is no way I would see my mum become homeless, particularly if my husband was a multi-millionaire. Could they buy a house and rent it to you? That way they wouldn't lose out as they would by paying rent for you.

I wonder if they fully grasp the situation you are in? There is no harm in explaining the reality and asking for advice as to what you should do. Then if they want to help they can offer.

Could they buy a house and rent it to you?

I was about to suggest that too.
You'd retain your independence and it would be an investment for them, too.

Without knowing the man and what your challenges have been how can anyone possibly say?

If someone is a multi-millionaire on paper, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they have liquid assets. Wealthy people tend have their money tied up working for them … to make more money.

What is it that you would like him to offer to do without being asked? Offer you money? Offer you a job? Offer you a home?

If you have a close relationship with these people then they must be aware of your situation.

I wonder if key to this is your own words: … life hasn’t worked out how I’d hoped. Lots of reasons - some my fault some not.

Maybe there is some element of judgement going on here about your past behaviour or past poor decision-making? Just a thought. It’s what the wealthy in society often tend to think, don’t they? They are apt to blame the poor for their own predicaments. Happens in families as well as in society as a whole.

Vee23 - i feel so bad for you. As someone said, I’m sure you will be entitled to benefits. I don’t see any reason why you should not talk to your daughter. I’m sure if the tables were turned, she would talk to you and you would help her .
I hope your situation improves x

I just don’t think we should expect our children and definitely not our in laws who aren’t even married to help us financially anyways sounds as if he might not even know you are struggling
Go to citizen advice and see if they can point you in the right direction for help and support

What I’ve learned is that life can turn on a dime. I worked all my life and was prepared to carry on working as long as I was able. I lost what I had through some bad decision making and some plain bad luck

I don’t think we should expect help from anyone; but I would be furious if my mum became homeless and hadn’t given me a chance to help if I could. The same applies to my children, and my MIL.

If it’s not possible because of money being tied up, or for any other reason, so be it. But I can’t see any harm in spelling out the situation so that if the daughter wants to help she has the opportunity to do so

You say you are very close to your daughter. If that’s still the case can you talk to her about your situation and ask for practical help to find alternative accommodation from, for example, social housing providers where you aren’t at the mercy of a private landlord? Help doesn’t have to mean financial assistance but simply another person trying to find alternative accommodation quickly. 2 heads are better than 1 and all that! Good luck, I hope things work out for you.

Vee123

What I’ve learned is that life can turn on a dime. I worked all my life and was prepared to carry on working as long as I was able. I lost what I had through some bad decision making and some plain bad luck

It am happen to anyone. I just feel sorry that at your time of life you find yourself struggling like this.
All the very best 🌹

Correction - can happen to anyone

One idea is to ask your daughter and son in law to purchase a flat which you will rent off them. A colleague of mine did this as the sil had a well paid job and could get the finance. The flat was viewed as a nest egg for the future to help cover the grandchildren’s potential university fees. A win win.

I’m so sorry you are in this position. I’ve had a section 21 served on me and it’s devastating.

Thanks all for your input. I’ll be back with an update at some point. Hopefully with some positive news

Well if my daughter was married to a genuine multi millionaire then I can't deny that I would certainly hope for some help. Especially if I was essentially destitute. I too have ended up in not a good place at the age of 68 and you have my sincere sympathies OP. I think Nashville's suggestion is excellent, but whether you can persuade for your son in law is another matter. I wish you all the very best.

Life is not fair and very unlikely works out as expected

What can you do on your end to prepare for this change?