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Sister owing money to whole family

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Fallingstar Sat 14-Feb-26 19:43:51

That is a big chunk of money so can understand your distress. And is your sister suffering mental health issues or was the threat of suicide just that, a threat so that you would pay her the money?
You deserve answers and must confront your sister about this even if it means having an argument because now your own son is out of pocket too and if she says she is awaiting an inheritance ask when this will come through and possibly make other enquiries to check whether what she is saying is true.
It sounds like she us giving to all the runaround but until you know for sure you can’t be certain.

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Notjustaprettyface Sat 14-Feb-26 19:32:07

Last year I lent my sister £10000
She was threatening to commit suicide if I didn’t lend her the money
Unbeknown to me she had already borrowed money from my other sister and my son
She said at the time that she would start paying back in September (2025) but September came and went and nothing happened
I have asked her a few times about paying me back but she just says she can’t afford it
My son keeps asking me when she is going to pay him back as he doesn’t like to approach her directly
All this is upsetting me and I do wonder whether she intends to pay us back at all
She is waiting for some inheritance from her in-laws but we have no way of checking when this will happen
If I must take the hit and lose the money then I suppose I will have to but what would it do to our relationship ?
I couldn’t trust her anymore and I wouldn’t respect someone who had no intention of paying the money back and instead , looked on it as a gift
I don’t know what to do ; I worry that if I stop contact with her I will certainly never see my money back
So what does one do in a situation like this ?

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