Son in laws behaviour on Mothers day of all days

I got a Card and flowers from my son and daughter-in-law. Daughter-in-law’s mother was treated to lunch today at the Ivy. How do I know ? They added photos on our WhatsApp group.
Do I care ? Hmm.. No.. Because I had a lovely steak lunch at home with my daughter and granddaughter. And I cooked. The steak was lovely and they enjoyed it. Also, it was nice to have a catch-up with my beautiful 23 year old granddaughter. 😍

The O/P was working, presumably she couldnt have asked them in?

I'd have been a bit upset, if he normally would greet you*

but it would depend what he is normally like*. And factored in a possible row or tension between them?

I got a WhatsApp and brief texts from them both. As it always is. I don't expect more.

Being called on in person would be an enormous plus.

I agree, very ignorant

Some people have no social graces.
All you can tell yourself is that he's your daughter's choice, and the father of your granddaughter.
You don't have to like him, just don't fall out with him.

crazyH

I got a Card and flowers from my son and daughter-in-law. Daughter-in-law’s mother was treated to lunch today at the Ivy. How do I know ? They added photos on our WhatsApp group.
Do I care ? Hmm.. No.. Because I had a lovely steak lunch at home with my daughter and granddaughter. And I cooked. The steak was lovely and they enjoyed it. Also, it was nice to have a catch-up with my beautiful 23 year old granddaughter. 😍

Maybe MIL was footing the bill. I took my 3 grandsons out for my birthday (which was on Saturday) they are 15,8 and 7 and daughter (their mum) did not attend, nor contribute to the meal costs which were quite expensive as they eat like gannets😂 She didn’t offer a happy birthday greeting nor purchased a card or gift, and snap with Mothers Day (my two older girls were lovely though)
I do not expect much from my birthday or Mothers Day from her, that way I cannot be disappointed.

I'm so sorry that your daughter disrespects you in that way, jenpax, that must be so hurtful. To not even give you a birthday card, a greeting, or mother's day card is unforgivable, you must be very placid not to question it. I hope you enjoyed your birthday meal with your grandsons and at least you have two other daughters who care about you 💐

Such a sad fact of life now. The phone has taken away friendliness.
Even if he was giving you time with your dd and gd it wouldn't have hurt to get out of the car, wish you a Happy Mother's Day, then excused himself so you had mum and daughter/Granddaughter time. On the other hand, maybe you could have gone over and asked him in.
I'm glad your daughter and Granddaughter made time for you.
Sadly, I have an empty vase on the mantlepiece.

Put these in your vase, Sarahr 💐 x

It’s an over commercialised day.I,dmuch prefer my family not to spend their hard earned cash on things I don’t need and tell them so.
My son and DIL arrived with flowers and cards and a parcel from my daughter who has her very recently widowed FIL staying with her.
It’s not something that would worry me if I never received a present or card ever again. They speak to us daily or pop in when they are passing that’s what’s important.Not cards or gifts.My mum used to say don’t bring flowers when I,m dead spend time with me while I,m alive

Addicted to his phone: simple as.
I don’t think some people realise how big a thing this is.
I am well aware of how ridiculous that sounds but it’s real.

Sarnia

Perhaps to have invited them all in would have been nice. Cup of tea and a chat rather than stand on the doorstep. Maybe if he thought your welcome was a bit chilly towards your daughter, he was doing the same.

As ive said i was working a 10 hour shift from home hence the door drop

Thankyou for all your replies, yes this is normal for him it’s clear he dosnt like me and that’s fine. I felt upset with the situation today as I kept looking to catch his eye so I could smile & wave as that comes natural to me

Sounds like my late husband. He used to spend a lot of time sitting in the car. He could never see the point of coming to make a bit of small talk. He was the same with his own parents.

Yes I can well believe it. We have someone who’s joined the family who’s just like that.
Also what I find rude is getting thanked second hand for presents that I have bought for that person.

There is history with this relationship it's obvious there is more to it.

Redhead56

There is history with this relationship it's obvious there is more to it.

Is there ?

ceejayjay

Sarnia

Perhaps to have invited them all in would have been nice. Cup of tea and a chat rather than stand on the doorstep. Maybe if he thought your welcome was a bit chilly towards your daughter, he was doing the same.

As ive said i was working a 10 hour shift from home hence the door drop

I wouldn't leave my daughter and granddaughter standing on the doorstep, no matter what. Even working from home gives you time for a tea break and lunch. Your SIL maybe feels your welcome wasn't much of a welcome.

It was her choice they was on there way somewhere ? Omg the amount of judgement with people making up facts. I would have loved her to have been able to come in and yes I do get 30 mins lunch but they called too late for me to take lunch at that time as my work has rules!

Last post was reply to Sarina

Jfyi my family are always more than welcome to come in for a cups & do so often Thankyou

And no we don’t get tea breaks. One 30 min lunch on ten hour shift

ceejayjay

Redhead56

There is history with this relationship it's obvious there is more to it.

Is there ?

You have mentioned your mental health in some posts, including your agoraphobia.
Maybe your son in law has a problem understanding and accepting this.

Sarnia

Perhaps to have invited them all in would have been nice. Cup of tea and a chat rather than stand on the doorstep. Maybe if he thought your welcome was a bit chilly towards your daughter, he was doing the same.

Thanks for repeating yourself Sarina

Wow that’s a low blow do people go checking up on old posts to see if they can find any dirt ?

ceejayjay

Sarnia

Perhaps to have invited them all in would have been nice. Cup of tea and a chat rather than stand on the doorstep. Maybe if he thought your welcome was a bit chilly towards your daughter, he was doing the same.

Thanks for repeating yourself Sarina

My pleasure.

ceejayjay

Wow that’s a low blow do people go checking up on old posts to see if they can find any dirt ?

That's not really fair.
People on GN are often quite astute at recognising other posters' names and what they have said in the past.